Vetmia dhe izolimi duken t\u00eb ngjashme, por n\u00eb realitet jan\u00eb rr\u00ebnj\u00ebsisht t\u00eb ndryshme. Izolimi p\u00ebrfshin shk\u00ebputje, shpesh nj\u00eb munges\u00eb vullneti ose paaft\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb komunikuar. P\u00ebrkundrazi, vetmia, kur zgjidhet me vet\u00ebdije, ofron lidhje dhe rip\u00ebrcaktim t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb hap\u00ebsira e nd\u00ebrmjetme ku vetja riorganizohet, e lir\u00eb nga zhurma e jashtme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Brenda k\u00ebsaj hap\u00ebsire, dikush mund t\u00eb rizbuloj\u00eb ritmin e tij, t\u00eb vij\u00eb n\u00eb kontakt me pyetje q\u00eb jan\u00eb shtypur, me ndjenja q\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb pasur koh\u00eb t\u00eb artikulohen. Psikologjia e vet\u00ebdijes njeh se largimi i p\u00ebrkohsh\u00ebm nga imperativat shoq\u00ebrore dhe v\u00ebler\u00ebsimi i jasht\u00ebm forcon vet\u00ebdijen personale. Ashtu si nj\u00eb liqen b\u00ebhet m\u00eb i past\u00ebr kur pushon s\u00eb trazuari, ashtu edhe mendja gjen qart\u00ebsi n\u00eb vetmi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Arti i Heshtjes<\/strong> Kur p\u00ebrqafoni heshtjen, fillon nj\u00eb takim me autenticitetin. Z\u00ebri i brendsh\u00ebm, zakonisht i varrosur n\u00ebn k\u00ebrkesat dhe detyrimet e p\u00ebrditshme shoq\u00ebrore, m\u00eb n\u00eb fund fiton hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn dhe koh\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb shprehur veten. Heshtja forcon pranin\u00eb, rrit aft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebzhguar dhe kultivon dhembshurin\u00eb, s\u00eb pari p\u00ebr veten dhe pastaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Thomas Merton, nj\u00eb murg dhe mendimtar, tha se n\u00eb heshtje d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb thirrjen e vetes son\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Heshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vend takimi me t\u00eb shenjt\u00ebn, me thelbin, me q\u00ebllimin m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs son\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vetmia – Porta drejt Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve Autentike<\/strong> Qasja moderne terapeutike e njeh autonomin\u00eb si nj\u00eb komponent ky\u00e7 t\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme. David Schnarch, n\u00eb studimet e tij mbi diferencimin emocional, tregon se sa m\u00eb i plot\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb dikush n\u00eb individualitetin e tij, aq m\u00eb i pjekur \u00ebsht\u00eb ai. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia transformohet nga nj\u00eb fush\u00eb var\u00ebsie emocionale n\u00eb nj\u00eb fush\u00eb bashk\u00ebkrijimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00ebrmes vetmis\u00eb m\u00ebsojm\u00eb t\u00eb durojm\u00eb heshtjen e tjetrit, t\u00eb mos kemi frik\u00eb nga distanca, t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojm\u00eb t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm pa k\u00ebrkuar vazhdimisht afirmim. K\u00ebshtu, \u00e7do marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie fiton liri dhe thell\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shembulli i Jezusit<\/strong> Shkret\u00ebtira simbolizon prov\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb: si q\u00ebndron para vetes pa tituj, pa duartrokitje, pa rr\u00ebfime. Si e gjen busull\u00ebn t\u00ebnde kur t\u00eb gjitha pikat e jashtme t\u00eb referenc\u00ebs jan\u00eb shuar. Dhe p\u00ebrgjigjja nuk jepet me fjal\u00eb, por n\u00eb siguri t\u00eb heshtur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ky izolim forcoi past\u00ebrtin\u00eb e tij t\u00eb brendshme dhe p\u00ebrgatiti veprimin e tij t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm. Ashtu si shum\u00eb mistik\u00eb dhe filozof\u00eb gjat\u00eb shekujve, edhe ai k\u00ebrkoi t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn jo n\u00eb v\u00ebrtetimin e jasht\u00ebm, por n\u00eb heshtjen e thell\u00eb, absolute, t\u00eb brendshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fuqia Transformuese e Vetmis\u00eb<\/strong> Vetmia kultivon vet\u00ebmjaftueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb. Jo vet\u00ebmjaftueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e shk\u00ebputjes, por at\u00eb q\u00eb bazohet n\u00eb plot\u00ebsi. Ju e njihni vler\u00ebn tuaj pa pasur nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr konfirmim t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm. Dhe brenda k\u00ebsaj sigurie, bota hapet p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet fitojn\u00eb cil\u00ebsi. Krijimi gjen shprehje, nd\u00ebrsa heshtja transformohet n\u00eb energji krijuese.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur ktheheni nga vetmia, keni fituar nj\u00eb stabilitet t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk shqet\u00ebsohet leht\u00eb. Vendimet tuaja b\u00ebhen m\u00eb t\u00eb qarta, vlerat tuaja m\u00eb t\u00eb forta, prania juaj m\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vetmia m\u00ebson thelbin e ekzistenc\u00ebs<\/strong> Lidhja e brendshme q\u00eb nd\u00ebrtohet n\u00eb vetmi p\u00ebrcjell fuqi. Nj\u00eb fuqi e qet\u00eb, pa britma, por plot qart\u00ebsi. Kushdo q\u00eb p\u00ebrballet me vetmin\u00eb e tij me mir\u00ebsi dhe kuriozitet, zbulon nj\u00eb m\u00ebsues q\u00eb nuk m\u00ebson me fjal\u00eb, por me prani.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Vetmia dhe izolimi duken t\u00eb ngjashme, por n\u00eb realitet jan\u00eb rr\u00ebnj\u00ebsisht t\u00eb ndryshme. Izolimi p\u00ebrfshin shk\u00ebputje, shpesh nj\u00eb munges\u00eb vullneti ose paaft\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb komunikuar. P\u00ebrkundrazi, vetmia, kur zgjidhet me vet\u00ebdije, ofron lidhje dhe rip\u00ebrcaktim t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb hap\u00ebsira e nd\u00ebrmjetme ku vetja riorganizohet, e lir\u00eb nga zhurma e jashtme. Brenda k\u00ebsaj hap\u00ebsire, dikush mund […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6126,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-7469","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji"},"yoast_head":"\n
Heshtja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm mungesa e fjal\u00ebve, pasi krijon nj\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb \u200b\u200bmendore dhe emocionale ku mund t\u00eb shfaqen mendimet m\u00eb t\u00eb pastra, l\u00ebvizjet m\u00eb delikate emocionale. \u00cbsht\u00eb momenti kur nuk keni nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb shpjegoni, t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjeni, t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtateni. Ju jeni thjesht t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm hap perspektiv\u00ebn e lidhjes kuptimplote me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Kontakti i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nuk lind nga nj\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr pohim ose nj\u00eb frik\u00eb nga humbja, por nga plot\u00ebsia q\u00eb kemi nd\u00ebrtuar nga brenda. Kur dim\u00eb si t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojm\u00eb n\u00eb paqe n\u00eb vetmin\u00eb ton\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb mund t’i ofrojm\u00eb veten nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje pa k\u00ebrkuar q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb mbuloj\u00eb mang\u00ebsit\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb tradit\u00ebn narrative t\u00eb Ungjijve, Jezusi kalon dyzet dit\u00eb n\u00eb shkret\u00ebtir\u00eb para se t\u00eb filloj\u00eb sh\u00ebrbes\u00ebn e tij publike. Shkret\u00ebtira nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vend nd\u00ebshkimi apo izolimi, por nj\u00eb terren p\u00ebrgatitjeje. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb heshtje dhe munges\u00eb t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetjeve t\u00eb jashtme, shpirti i tij thirret t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb lakuriq para misionit t\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vetmia, kur p\u00ebrjetohet me q\u00ebllim t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm, b\u00ebhet terren pjellor p\u00ebr transformim. N\u00eb t\u00eb, ne nuk humbasim, por i afrohemi m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs son\u00eb. Pyetje q\u00eb ishin heshtur dalin n\u00eb pah, plag\u00eb q\u00eb nuk kishin z\u00eb sh\u00ebrohen, \u00ebndrra q\u00eb kishin nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr hap\u00ebsir\u00eb \u200b\u200bp\u00ebr t’u rritur lindin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vetmia as nuk kufizon dhe as nuk privon, p\u00ebrkundrazi, ajo \u00e7liron dhe zbulon. \u00cbsht\u00eb hap\u00ebsira n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn shpirti merr frym\u00eb pa pritje, pa nevoj\u00ebn p\u00ebr konfirmim. Atje, n\u00eb heshtje, d\u00ebgjohet z\u00ebri m\u00eb i ndersh\u00ebm, ai i vetes q\u00eb zgjedh t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mos konformohet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n