Problemi ushqyes \u00ebsht\u00eb maja e ajsbergut.P\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb vazhdohet me problemin ushqimor, i cili natyrisht \u00ebsht\u00eb kryesisht emocional i kontrolluar n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet t\u00eb ushqyerit, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh nj\u00eb \u2018shije\u2019 t\u00eb simbolik\u00ebs s\u00eb vet\u00eb ushqimit p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb prirja p\u00ebr shije t\u00eb \u00ebmbla, apo t\u00eb kripura apo t\u00eb hidhura, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e rast\u00ebsishme. Ajo q\u00eb dua t\u00eb ha zbulon di\u00e7ka shum\u00eb specifike, e cila nis nga nj\u00eb munges\u00eb q\u00eb i d\u00ebrgon nj\u00eb mesazh trurit p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar shijen q\u00eb dua t\u00eb ndjej dhe p\u00ebr ta inkorporuar brenda vetes. Ndjenja e uris\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb di\u00e7ka dhe p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb at\u00eb. Pastaj p\u00ebrmes k\u00ebtij integrimi vjen ngopja, k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00eb thuaj \u00e7far\u00eb hani dhe un\u00eb do t’ju them se kush jeni
N\u00ebse dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb i uritur p\u00ebr dashuri, emocionin suprem dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, dhe ndjen se nuk ka qen\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur dhe nuk i \u00ebsht\u00eb mjaftuar ngroht\u00ebsia, kujdesi dhe shqet\u00ebsimi p\u00ebrmes lidhjes s\u00eb tij me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, at\u00ebher\u00eb ai rritet i privuar. Atyre u mungon gjith\u00e7ka dhe asgj\u00eb nuk u mjafton. Kjo n\u00eb vetvete \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb traum\u00eb emocionale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
K\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia dhe privimi emocional jan\u00eb ato q\u00eb na b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb varur nga ajo q\u00eb na jep k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi. Sepse n\u00ebse nuk kam boshll\u00ebqe brenda meje, nuk ka arsye t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t’i mbushur ato. Un\u00eb tashm\u00eb ndihem i kompletuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo uri emocionale p\u00ebr dashuri, pra, shfaqet n\u00eb plan t\u00eb par\u00eb si uri p\u00ebr \u00ebmb\u00eblsirat. Kjo bulimi q\u00eb shprehet n\u00eb \u00ebmb\u00eblsira apo ushqime t\u00eb ndryshme \u00ebsht\u00eb shprehje e uris\u00eb s\u00eb pak\u00ebnaqur p\u00ebr dashuri. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, dashuria nuk mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb shije tjet\u00ebr, t\u00eb kripur apo t\u00eb hidhur, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e \u00ebmb\u00ebl n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha manifestimet e saj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Brenda s\u00eb \u00ebmb\u00ebls ka nostalgjin\u00eb, afirmimin, pranin\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ndjej, rehatin\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb mungonte, p\u00ebrqafimin q\u00eb nuk e kisha, m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb qet\u00ebsuar veten, p\u00ebr t\u00eb menaxhuar emocionet e v\u00ebshtira q\u00eb dalin nga vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi i ul\u00ebt dhe mospranimi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nga vjen fuqia e d\u00ebshir\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb pak\u00ebnaqurit p\u00ebrb\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb zbraz\u00ebti, e cila kultivon impulsivitetin n\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka, jo vet\u00ebm n\u00eb ushqim. Ushqimi \u00ebsht\u00eb leht\u00ebsisht i aksesuesh\u00ebm, jo \u200b\u200bvet\u00ebm jasht\u00eb por edhe ne e kemi n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Pra, nj\u00eb pjat\u00eb me ushqim shnd\u00ebrrohet leht\u00ebsisht n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb q\u00eb nuk kam, n\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb m\u00eb mungon. Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se njer\u00ebzit e vetmuar jan\u00eb ata q\u00eb drejtohen drejt ngr\u00ebnies emocionale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Mund t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb familje, nj\u00eb partner, mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb prani fizike n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, por ndoshta ushqimi vjen p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbushur boshll\u00ebkun emocional q\u00eb zgjerohet mes njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku, munges\u00ebn e mir\u00ebkuptimit, but\u00ebsis\u00eb, solidaritetit dhe komunikimit kuptimplot\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Faktor\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb kontribuojn\u00eb n\u00eb teprimet emocionale jan\u00eb:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ~perfeksioniz\u00ebm: n\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekjen p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrballuar t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebrkesat n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, n\u00eb \u00e7do rol, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar gjith\u00e7ka rreth meje, ushqimi vjen p\u00ebr t\u00eb ‘thyer’ mas\u00ebn e rrept\u00eb q\u00eb i vendos vetes, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb ushqimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb priz\u00eb ku mund ta l\u00eb veten t\u00eb shkoj pa standarde, pa kontroll.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Megjithat\u00eb, kjo taktik\u00eb fsheh nj\u00eb kontrast gjith\u00e7ka ose asgj\u00eb, nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb kontrollin e gjith\u00e7kaje dhe nga ana tjet\u00ebr humbjen absolute t\u00eb kontrollit pa kufi, nj\u00eb \u00e7ekuilib\u00ebr jofunksional q\u00eb nxjerr n\u00eb pah paaft\u00ebsin\u00eb ton\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u pajtuar me pap\u00ebrsosm\u00ebrit\u00eb tona dhe jo me iden\u00eb e personit t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur t\u00eb paarritsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7far\u00eb ndodh me episodet bulimike q\u00eb p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb me t\u00eb vjella?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast specifik, t\u00eb vjellat, qofshin t\u00eb q\u00ebllimshme ose jo, zakonisht simbolizojn\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e brendshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb hequr qafe gj\u00ebrat ose situatat q\u00eb nuk i p\u00eblqejm\u00eb dhe nuk duam t’i p\u00ebrfshijm\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Stomaku \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00ebsi i ushqimit, pra emocionet, mendimet, besimet, por jo t\u00eb gjitha jan\u00eb t\u00eb tretshme, ne nuk duam t’i p\u00ebrpunojm\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha brenda nesh, ndaj duhet t\u00eb d\u00ebbohen nga trupi yn\u00eb. T\u00eb vjellat jan\u00eb refuzimi i k\u00ebtyre gj\u00ebrave, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, sa mund t\u00eb g\u00eblltisim?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Si trajtohet teprimi emocional?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Prandaj, sistemi tret\u00ebs p\u00ebrfshin mekanizmat q\u00eb integrojn\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrpunojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha idet\u00eb, vler\u00ebsimet dhe emocionet q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga vet\u00ebdija (truri), i cili i pranon disa nd\u00ebrsa i refuzon t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u00ebshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb shqyrtojm\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb simbolizon ushqimi p\u00ebr secilin prej nesh? \u00c7far\u00eb sh\u00ebrben ushqimi emocional? A g\u00eblltis gj\u00ebra q\u00eb nuk mund t’i menaxhoj? Si t’i shmang konfliktet? A na tregon ushqimi nevoj\u00ebn e ndrydhur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb utopi f\u00ebmij\u00ebrie ku t\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebnaqin d\u00ebshirat, dashurin\u00eb, pranimin dhe p\u00ebrqafimin ton\u00eb? A ka gj\u00ebra me t\u00eb cilat shmang t\u00eb p\u00ebrballem, si p.sh. p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb, ndryshimet e m\u00ebdha q\u00eb b\u00ebhen ‘t\u00eb patretshme’?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Stomaku, si dhe sjellja ndaj ushqimit, na tregon t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn. Modifikimi i zakonit t\u00eb t\u00eb ngr\u00ebnit me ndryshime baz\u00eb, si sasia dhe cil\u00ebsia, t\u00eb m\u00ebsuarit p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb ngadal\u00eb dhe vazhdimisht<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Problemi ushqyes \u00ebsht\u00eb maja e ajsbergut.P\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb vazhdohet me problemin ushqimor, i cili natyrisht \u00ebsht\u00eb kryesisht emocional i kontrolluar n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet t\u00eb ushqyerit, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh nj\u00eb \u2018shije\u2019 t\u00eb simbolik\u00ebs s\u00eb vet\u00eb ushqimit p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb prirja p\u00ebr shije t\u00eb \u00ebmbla, apo t\u00eb kripura apo t\u00eb hidhura, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e rast\u00ebsishme. 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D\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e fort\u00eb dhe rezistenca p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos konsumuar \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, pik\u00ebrisht sepse d\u00ebshira \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, pra d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr dashuri. Impulsiviteti \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mekaniz\u00ebm mbrojt\u00ebs q\u00eb del n\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaqe p\u00ebr t\u00eb menaxhuar emocionet e pak\u00ebndshme. Padurimi fshihet, \u2018dua nj\u00eb \u00ebmb\u00eblsir\u00eb tani, dua t\u00eb ha gjith\u00e7ka\u2019, pa mas\u00eb, pa mundur t\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizoj veten. Ai q\u00eb flet n\u00eb at\u00eb moment nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sigurisht vetja jon\u00eb e rritur, por f\u00ebmija i brendsh\u00ebm brenda nesh, i cili si t\u00eb gjith\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duan t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqin nevojat e tyre, qofshin ato mendore apo materiale, k\u00ebtu dhe tani.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
~ P\u00ebrpiqem t\u00eb \u2018g\u00eblltis\u2019 zem\u00ebrimin q\u00eb nuk jam n\u00eb gjendje ta eksteroj, e ndrydh brenda vetes, jo thjesht duke shp\u00ebrthyer n\u00eb ushqim, por duke g\u00eblltitur vet\u00eb zem\u00ebrimin: ushqimi k\u00ebtu simbolizon at\u00eb q\u00eb dua t\u00eb pretendoj, gjith\u00e7ka dua t\u00eb komunikoj dhe nuk mundem, ose durimin dhe n\u00ebnshtrimin n\u00eb fusha t\u00eb ndryshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se fakti q\u00eb ne g\u00eblltisim at\u00eb q\u00eb ham\u00eb tregon se duam t\u00eb integrojm\u00eb thell\u00eb dashurin\u00eb brenda nesh, duam ta pranojm\u00eb at\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb duam ta p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb, pa frik\u00eb. E kund\u00ebrta ndodh n\u00eb episodet bulimike me t\u00eb vjella, pra kemi v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb integrimin e ushqimit n\u00eb vetvete, p\u00ebr ta pranuar at\u00eb. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, th\u00ebniet popullore shprehin pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebt\u00eb, p.sh. kjo ngjarje m\u00eb ka ngelur r\u00ebnd\u00eb n\u00eb bark, ose e shoh dhe m\u00eb vjen t\u00eb vjella.<\/p>\n\n\n\n