Xhelozia ka nj\u00eb sjellje t\u00eb keq si emocion dhe ne shpesh n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsore p\u00ebrpiqemi ta shp\u00ebrfillim at\u00eb. Edhe pse e lidhur me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie romantike, xhelozia mund t\u00eb shfaqet n\u00eb mjedise profesionale, n\u00eb miq\u00ebsi, n\u00eb familje e gjetk\u00eb. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta hedhim posht\u00eb xhelozin\u00eb si di\u00e7ka “t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme”, ne mund ta shohim at\u00eb si nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar inteligjenc\u00ebn ton\u00eb emocionale duke njohur dhe kuptuar emocionet tona.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shumica e njer\u00ebzve ngat\u00ebrrojn\u00eb ndjenjat e xhelozis\u00eb me ato t\u00eb zilis\u00eb. Dallimi \u00ebsht\u00eb se kur p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb xhelozi, ne shohim nj\u00eb person ose send si penges\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb dashuri, v\u00ebmendje, dashuri, etj. Krahasuar me zilin\u00eb, ne duam t\u00eb marrim di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka nj\u00eb person tjet\u00ebr. Bazuar n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizim, \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur q\u00eb n\u00ebse ndiheni xheloz, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb tregues i nj\u00eb nevoje t\u00eb mundshme emocionale t\u00eb paplot\u00ebsuar dhe t\u00eb papranuar brenda marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies tuaj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kur p\u00ebrballemi me ndjenjat e xhelozis\u00eb, reagimi yn\u00eb instinktiv mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb t’i l\u00ebm\u00eb m\u00ebnjan\u00eb ndjenjat ose t\u00eb nxitojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t’i kap\u00ebrcyer ato sepse ndihemi t\u00eb pak\u00ebndsh\u00ebm. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, ne nuk i b\u00ebjm\u00eb fare favore vetes. Psikologia Beverley Andre, duke folur p\u00ebr mindbodygreen<\/strong>, rekomandon q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrpunojm\u00eb xhelozin\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse duket e pak\u00ebndshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4 hapa t\u00eb dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrballuar xhelozin\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, sipas nj\u00eb psikologu<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Merrni parasysh:<\/strong> Cilat jan\u00eb disa pengesa t\u00eb mundshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb pranuar se jeni xheloz? A mendoni se t\u00eb qenit xheloz nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranueshme nga shoq\u00ebria? A ka nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb turpi t\u00eb lidhur me ndjenj\u00ebn e xhelozis\u00eb? <\/p>\n\n\n\n A shkakton kjo ndjenj\u00ebn e pafuqis\u00eb n\u00eb situat\u00eb? A ju b\u00ebn kjo t\u00eb ndiheni si nj\u00eb person i keq?T\u00eb qenit i sinqert\u00eb me veten se ku jeni emocionalisht heq nj\u00eb penges\u00eb shtes\u00eb p\u00ebr p\u00ebrpunimin e tyre. Kur merrni koh\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u00eb pranuar at\u00eb q\u00eb po ndjeni, mund ta siguroni veten se mendimet dhe ndjenjat tuaja jan\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vet\u00eb-vler\u00ebsimi mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb aq i thjesht\u00eb sa t\u00eb b\u00ebsh pyetjet e m\u00ebposhtme: \u00c7far\u00eb m\u00eb thot\u00eb ndjenja? Ku ndihem i paduksh\u00ebm n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie? \u00c7far\u00eb nuk marr m\u00eb nga kjo marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie q\u00eb besoj se personi ose gj\u00ebja tjet\u00ebr po merr tani n\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj? \u00c7far\u00eb mendoj se m\u00eb mungon?<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00ebrgjigjja e k\u00ebtyre pyetjeve me ndershm\u00ebri mund t\u00eb zbuloj\u00eb nevoja t\u00eb paplot\u00ebsuara q\u00eb mund t\u00eb mos keni menduar t’i komunikoni. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb vet\u00ebdije t\u00eb re, tani mund t\u00eb vendosni se si d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb vazhdoni n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjen ndaj emocioneve tuaja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, duke shkuar te personi me t\u00eb cilin jeni n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje dhe duke komunikuar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb civile ndjenjat tuaja, ju krijoni intimitet dhe lidhje emocionale. Duke komunikuar se ndiheni xheloz dhe doni ta p\u00ebrballoni k\u00ebt\u00eb, ju hedhni drit\u00eb mbi k\u00ebto nevoja t\u00eb path\u00ebna dhe t\u00eb paplot\u00ebsuara dhe lejoni q\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet dhe t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohet p\u00ebrmes transparenc\u00ebs suaj. N\u00ebse nuk keni praktikuar, k\u00ebtu \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shembull se si t\u00eb filloni bised\u00ebn:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cDua t\u00eb ndaj me ju situat\u00ebn e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb emocionale n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodhem, edhe pse \u00ebsht\u00eb e pak\u00ebndshme. Ndihem pak xheloz kur e v\u00ebrej (specifikoni burimin dhe sjelljen e jashtme). Kur e shoh k\u00ebt\u00eb, ndiej [p\u00ebrfshi \u00e7do emocion shtes\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoni s\u00eb bashku me xhelozin\u00eb] sepse (ndani se si ndikon tek ju). Dua t\u00eb jem n\u00eb gjendje (rendisni ndryshimet q\u00eb d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb shihni) dhe shpresoj se mund t\u00eb m\u00eb ndihmoni me k\u00ebt\u00eb “.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Xhelozia ka nj\u00eb sjellje t\u00eb keq si emocion dhe ne shpesh n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsore p\u00ebrpiqemi ta shp\u00ebrfillim at\u00eb. Edhe pse e lidhur me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie romantike, xhelozia mund t\u00eb shfaqet n\u00eb mjedise profesionale, n\u00eb miq\u00ebsi, n\u00eb familje e gjetk\u00eb. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta hedhim posht\u00eb xhelozin\u00eb si di\u00e7ka “t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme”, ne mund ta shohim at\u00eb si […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":4767,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-7150","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji"},"yoast_head":"\n\n
T\u00eb pranosh se je xheloz nuk t\u00eb b\u00ebn njeri t\u00eb keq. Xhelozia \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e gam\u00ebs s\u00eb gjer\u00eb t\u00eb emocioneve q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit do t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. Mohimi i faktit q\u00eb jeni xheloz mund t’ju vendos\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb cik\u00ebl mohimi t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm t\u00eb ndjenjave tuaja.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n\n
Kjo pik\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e pak\u00ebndshme sepse k\u00ebrkon zhytje n\u00eb psikik\u00ebn ton\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb. Me xhelozin\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrfshin nj\u00eb pal\u00eb t\u00eb tret\u00eb, un\u00eb sugjeroj t\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim p\u00ebr t’ju ndihmuar t\u00eb zgjidhni l\u00ebmshin e emocioneve. Nuk ju ndihmon t\u00eb veproni mbi supozime ose t\u00eb gjeni veten duke rip\u00ebrs\u00ebritur p\u00ebrvojat e kaluara dhe m\u00eb pas duke i projektuar ato n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien tuaj aktuale.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n\n
Kini parasysh pse, kur dhe me k\u00eb i ndani ndjenjat tuaja. Gj\u00ebja e fundit q\u00eb d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb b\u00ebni \u00ebsht\u00eb t’i p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsoni gj\u00ebrat duke folur me personin q\u00eb e shihni si arsyen q\u00eb mund t\u00eb humbni v\u00ebmendjen dhe dashurin\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien tuaj.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n\n
Zgjedhjet e b\u00ebra gjat\u00eb emocioneve t\u00eb p\u00ebrkohshme intensive mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb efekte negative afatgjata. Xhelozia q\u00eb del jasht\u00eb kontrollit mund t\u00eb shfaqet n\u00eb zili dhe zem\u00ebrim, t\u00eb cilat mund t\u00eb \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00eb g\u00ebrryerjen e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb e kund\u00ebrta e asaj q\u00eb d\u00ebshironi. N\u00ebse jeni n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb merrni nj\u00eb moment p\u00ebr t\u00eb qet\u00ebsuar veten kur jeni t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar, mund t\u00eb zvog\u00ebloni mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn do t\u00eb pendoheni.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n