Kur mendoni p\u00ebr faljen, cilat imazhe ju vijn\u00eb n\u00eb mendje? P\u00ebr disa, ideja p\u00ebr t\u00eb falur dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gabim t\u00eb s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb e barabart\u00eb me t’i lejuar ata “t\u00eb ik\u00eb”. Megjithat\u00eb, kur mbajm\u00eb m\u00ebri p\u00ebr sjelljet q\u00eb kan\u00eb ndodhur n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn, ne n\u00eb fakt po l\u00ebndojm\u00eb vet\u00ebm veten, jo personin tjet\u00ebr.
Falja nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb harrosh se \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb gabim ose se ajo q\u00eb b\u00ebri personi ishte n\u00eb rregull. Do t\u00eb thot\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lirohemi nga barra e emocioneve negative q\u00eb shkaktoi incidenti i kaluar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Studimet tregojn\u00eb se ne jemi t\u00eb motivuar nga nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb e lindur p\u00ebr t\u00eb falur t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb faktor\u00ebve t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm, si dhe ndoshta nevojave t\u00eb brendshme. N\u00ebse dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr ne tani ose ndoshta n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, ne mund t\u00eb d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb t\u00eb ofrojm\u00eb falje n\u00ebse na b\u00ebn keq p\u00ebr t\u00eb siguruar q\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia t\u00eb ruhet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne gjithashtu e kemi m\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb t\u00eb falim ata q\u00eb mendojm\u00eb se mund t\u00eb na ken\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb keq pa dashje. N\u00eb disa marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, ne mund t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb arsye p\u00ebr t\u00eb falur dik\u00eb n\u00ebse k\u00ebrc\u00ebnimi i nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje t\u00eb humbur p\u00ebrb\u00ebn nj\u00eb rrezik t\u00eb konsideruesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr mir\u00ebqenien ton\u00eb. Falja e nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr nj\u00eb shkelje t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb fakt integrale p\u00ebr t\u00eb siguruar mir\u00ebqenien ton\u00eb n\u00eb shum\u00eb fusha, nga ato financiare dhe emocionale, tek ato fizike dhe familjare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Korrigjimi i padrejt\u00ebsis\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb i mundur
Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, problemi me mbajtjen e hidh\u00ebrimit p\u00ebr incidentet e kaluara \u00ebsht\u00eb se ne lejojm\u00eb dik\u00eb q\u00eb na ka b\u00ebr\u00eb keq n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb t\u00eb ushtroj\u00eb kontroll negativ mbi jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb tani dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Studimet tregojn\u00eb se mbartja e emocioneve negative, si hidh\u00ebrimi dhe d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr hakmarrje, ndikon negativisht n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin ton\u00eb fizik. \u00cbsht\u00eb sikur ngarkesa emocionale t\u00eb r\u00ebndoj\u00eb n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn ton\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb reale q\u00eb mund t\u00eb rris\u00eb presionin e gjakut dhe rrahjet e zemr\u00ebs, t\u00eb rris\u00eb rrezikun e s\u00ebmundjeve metabolike, si dhe rrezikun e obezitetit. Edukimi dhe kujtimi i gabimeve t\u00eb s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs mund ta mbaj\u00eb trupin ton\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje stresi dhe t\u00eb mbaj\u00eb kortizolin, ose hormonin e stresit, t\u00eb lart\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Disa njer\u00ebz ndihen t\u00eb justifikuar n\u00eb mbajtjen e zem\u00ebrimit \u2013 sikur zem\u00ebrimi i tyre po d\u00ebmton ose nd\u00ebshkon nj\u00eb person tjet\u00ebr. Megjithat\u00eb, vendosja p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur flak\u00ebn e inatit t\u00eb ndezur do t\u00eb d\u00ebmtoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm personin q\u00eb refuzon t\u00eb heq\u00eb dor\u00eb nga ndjenjat e tij negative p\u00ebr tjetrin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pavar\u00ebsisht se sa “e drejt\u00eb” \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdosh t\u00eb identifikohesh si pala “e gabuar”, ju po e pengoni veten t\u00eb jetoni m\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht n\u00eb t\u00eb tashmen dhe t\u00eb l\u00ebvizni m\u00eb lirsh\u00ebm n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen. Refuzimi p\u00ebr ta l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb do t’ju mbaj\u00eb t\u00eb mbyllur n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn dhe do t\u00eb pasqyroj\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb po i b\u00ebni vetes n\u00eb t\u00eb tashmen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Si t\u00eb ecim drejt faljes
\u2013 Pranojeni q\u00eb ngjarja ka ndodhur. Sa t\u00eb duam, nuk mund ta zhb\u00ebjm\u00eb kurr\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Prano jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb ka ndodhur nj\u00eb incident, por edhe se ka ndjenja t\u00eb pak\u00ebndshme q\u00eb ai ka l\u00ebn\u00eb pas. \u00cbsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull t\u00eb jesh i zem\u00ebruar ose i l\u00ebnduar, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb interesin tuaj m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb t’i bartni ato ndjenja si nj\u00eb angazhim i p\u00ebrjetsh\u00ebm ndaj dhimbjes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Njihuni se keni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar duke marr\u00eb kontrollin e emocioneve tuaja n\u00eb t\u00eb tashmen sesa duke lejuar q\u00eb e kaluara t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb t’ju kontrolloj\u00eb sot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 Zgjidhni ose t\u00eb p\u00ebrballeni me incidentin ball\u00eb p\u00ebr ball\u00eb duke b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb bised\u00eb t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb me personin q\u00eb mendoni se ju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb keq, ose thjesht l\u00ebreni incidentin t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb dhe fokusohuni te e tashmja dhe njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb kan\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi p\u00ebr ju tani.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u00eb m\u00ebsosh t\u00eb fal\u00ebsh t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb koh\u00eb. Studimet tregojn\u00eb se nd\u00ebrsa maturohemi, jemi m\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb lejojm\u00eb faljen dhe t\u00eb pranojm\u00eb gabimet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. P\u00ebrfitimet sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore t\u00eb zgjedhjes p\u00ebr t’i l\u00ebn\u00eb gj\u00ebrat t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb uljen e stresit n\u00eb trupin dhe mendjen ton\u00eb dhe uljen e zem\u00ebrimit q\u00eb ndodh n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb pap\u00ebrshtatshme ose n\u00eb nivele q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrpjes\u00ebtim me nj\u00eb situat\u00eb. M\u00eb pak zem\u00ebrim dhe m\u00eb pak stres do t\u00eb rezultoj\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb cil\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuara me njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj q\u00eb kan\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi tani.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kur mendoni p\u00ebr faljen, cilat imazhe ju vijn\u00eb n\u00eb mendje? P\u00ebr disa, ideja p\u00ebr t\u00eb falur dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gabim t\u00eb s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb e barabart\u00eb me t’i lejuar ata “t\u00eb ik\u00eb”. Megjithat\u00eb, kur mbajm\u00eb m\u00ebri p\u00ebr sjelljet q\u00eb kan\u00eb ndodhur n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn, ne n\u00eb fakt po l\u00ebndojm\u00eb vet\u00ebm veten, jo personin tjet\u00ebr.Falja […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6165,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521,590],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-6907","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji","8":"category-shoqeri"},"yoast_head":"\n