N\u00ebse keni \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebr dik\u00eb, t\u00eb till\u00eb si nj\u00eb ish, nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebpun\u00ebtor ose nj\u00eb t\u00eb dashur, mund t\u00eb pyesni veten pse mund t\u00eb shfaqen n\u00eb \u00ebndrrat tuaja. Nd\u00ebrsa \u00ebndrrat shpesh fokusohen n\u00eb mendimet dhe shqet\u00ebsimet tuaja gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs, ato gjithashtu mund t\u00eb pasqyrojn\u00eb mendimet ose ndjenjat tuaja t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. N\u00eb raste t\u00eb tjera, \u00ebndrrat mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsojn\u00eb simbolikisht di\u00e7ka krejt\u00ebsisht t\u00eb ndryshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Frojdi besonte se nxjerrja e informacionit t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb ndihmonte n\u00eb zbutjen e shqet\u00ebsimit psikologjik. N\u00ebse \u00ebnd\u00ebrrimi p\u00ebr dik\u00eb ju ka m\u00ebrzitur ose thjesht ju shqet\u00ebson, hetimi i kuptimit t\u00eb \u00ebndrr\u00ebs suaj mund t’ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoni se \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb thot\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pse shfaqet dikush n\u00eb \u00ebndrrat tuaja?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sigmund Freud<\/strong> i p\u00ebrshkroi shk\u00eblqyesh\u00ebm k\u00ebto dy aspekte t\u00eb \u00ebndrrave n\u00eb librin e tij themelor ” Interpretimi i \u00ebndrrave<\/strong><\/em>“. Frojdi propozoi q\u00eb \u00ebndrrat jan\u00eb shum\u00eb simbolike dhe p\u00ebrmbajn\u00eb kuptime t\u00eb mir\u00ebfillta (p\u00ebrmbajtja e dukshme) dhe kuptime simbolike (p\u00ebrmbajtja e fsheht\u00eb).<\/p>\n\n\n\n B\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr imazhet dhe historin\u00eb q\u00eb mbani mend kur zgjoheni. N\u00ebse \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni p\u00ebr dik\u00eb, p\u00ebrmbajtja e dukshme do t\u00eb jet\u00eb detajet p\u00ebr at\u00eb person, pamjen e tij, ngjarjet q\u00eb ndodhin dhe nd\u00ebrveprimet q\u00eb keni brenda \u00ebndrr\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n “P\u00ebrmbajtja eksplicite \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb dhe do t’ju komunikoj\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt p\u00ebr nj\u00eb problem q\u00eb keni ose nj\u00eb situat\u00eb q\u00eb keni p\u00ebrjetuar,” shpjegon Lyon. “P\u00ebr shembull, ju mund t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni se po grindeni me partnerin tuaj t\u00eb dashur sepse aktualisht po p\u00ebrjetoni konflikt n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien tuaj – ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb interpretim mjaft i thjesht\u00eb i \u00ebndrrave.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nj\u00eb shembull tjet\u00ebr mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndjekur nj\u00eb koncert me nj\u00eb mik t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb q\u00eb nuk e keni par\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb. P\u00ebrmbajtja e dukshme do t\u00eb ishte ngjarjet, fjal\u00ebt dhe reagimet e mikut tuaj, dhe element\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb shqisor dhe perceptues q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoni si \u00ebnd\u00ebrrimtar. Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebrmbajtja e dukshme mund t\u00eb mos pasqyroj\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht kuptimin themelor t\u00eb \u00ebndrr\u00ebs. Duke analizuar p\u00ebrmbajtjen latente – ose kuptimin simbolik – mund t\u00eb merrni nj\u00eb ide m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u00ebndrra juaj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kjo p\u00ebrfshin kuptimin n\u00ebnnd\u00ebrgjegjesh\u00ebm t\u00eb \u00ebndrr\u00ebs, ose at\u00eb q\u00eb interpretuesit e \u00ebndrrave do t\u00eb thoshin se \u00ebsht\u00eb kuptimi i fshehur pas \u00ebndrr\u00ebs suaj. N\u00eb shembullin e m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm t\u00eb debatit me nj\u00eb partner, shpjegon Lyon, mund t\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptoj\u00eb se personi po lufton me ndjenj\u00ebn e padenj\u00eb p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb e partnerit t\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrosh nj\u00eb mik q\u00eb nuk e ke par\u00eb prej vitesh mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsoj\u00eb simbolikisht nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshme p\u00ebr rilidhje ose nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u dh\u00ebn\u00eb fund ndjenjave t\u00eb pazgjidhura. Ose mund t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb nj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb p\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb lidhje shoq\u00ebrore dhe shoq\u00ebri n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shembuj t\u00eb simbolizmit t\u00eb \u00ebndrrave.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n – Shefi:<\/strong><\/em> Mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsoj\u00eb betejat me pushtetin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n – N\u00ebna juaj:<\/strong> Ju mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrballeni me beteja q\u00eb lidhen me feminilitetin dhe vet\u00eb-ushqyerjen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n – M\u00ebsuesja e shkoll\u00ebs s\u00eb mesme<\/em>:<\/strong> Ju mund t\u00eb keni t\u00eb b\u00ebni me ndjenj\u00ebn e t\u00eb qenit i gjykuar ose i vler\u00ebsuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ju \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni p\u00ebr romanc\u00eb dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn mund t\u00eb pyesni veten, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse keni nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr romantike p\u00ebr dik\u00eb q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht nj\u00eb partner i mundsh\u00ebm romantik (si nj\u00eb mik apo nj\u00eb shef).<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cP\u00ebrfshirja romantike ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me lidhjen. Pra, n\u00ebse jeni duke u takuar apo edhe duke b\u00ebr\u00eb seks me dik\u00eb q\u00eb nuk do ta prisni, ai person simbolizon nj\u00eb fush\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs tuaj me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn duhet t\u00eb lidheni m\u00eb thell\u00eb\u201d, shpjegon Lyon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kuptimi pas \u00ebndrrave romantike p\u00ebr dik\u00eb Kontrolli mbi jet\u00ebn tuaj<\/em>: “N\u00ebse \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni t\u00eb b\u00ebni seks me shefin tuaj, mund t\u00eb mos d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb b\u00ebni seks me t\u00eb, por patjet\u00ebr duhet t\u00eb keni parasysh se si lidheni me autoritetin tuaj dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebnguljen n\u00eb drejtimin e jet\u00ebs suaj.” .<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hiqni dor\u00eb nga bagazhet emocionale:<\/em> \u201cN\u00ebse \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni t\u00eb b\u00ebni seks me ish-in tuaj, mund t\u00eb mos d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb ktheheni s\u00ebrish bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb, por duhet patjet\u00ebr t\u00eb mendoni me \u00e7far\u00eb bagazhesh t\u00eb pazgjidhura nga e kaluara juaj duhet t\u00eb lidheni dhe ta lini t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb. largohu”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Zhvillimi persona<\/em>l: \u201cN\u00ebse \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni se po b\u00ebni seks me t\u00eb dashurin tuaj, mendoni se cilat jan\u00eb karakteristikat m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb t\u00eb dashurit tuaj. Shanset jan\u00eb q\u00eb mendja juaj po p\u00ebrpiqet t’ju m\u00ebsoj\u00eb se si t\u00eb rriteni si person dhe t\u00eb lidheni me k\u00ebto tipare t\u00eb admirueshme t\u00eb personalitetit.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb na tregoj\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr p\u00ebr dik\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse keni \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebr dik\u00eb, t\u00eb till\u00eb si nj\u00eb ish, nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebpun\u00ebtor ose nj\u00eb t\u00eb dashur, mund t\u00eb pyesni veten pse mund t\u00eb shfaqen n\u00eb \u00ebndrrat tuaja. Nd\u00ebrsa \u00ebndrrat shpesh fokusohen n\u00eb mendimet dhe shqet\u00ebsimet tuaja gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs, ato gjithashtu mund t\u00eb pasqyrojn\u00eb mendimet ose ndjenjat tuaja t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. N\u00eb raste […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6901,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-6898","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji"},"yoast_head":"\n
\u00cbnd\u00ebrrimi p\u00ebr dik\u00eb mund t\u00eb zbuloj\u00eb ndjenja t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psikoanalisti Sigmund Freud<\/strong> luajti nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb lidhjen e interpretimit t\u00eb \u00ebndrrave me fush\u00ebn e psikologjis\u00eb. \u00cbndrrat, sugjeroi Frojdi, ishin nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb hyr\u00eb n\u00eb mendjen e pavet\u00ebdijshme. Frojdi e p\u00ebrshkroi mendjen e pand\u00ebrgjegjshme si nj\u00eb rezervuar t\u00eb gjer\u00eb mendimesh, ndjenjash dhe d\u00ebshirash q\u00eb fshihen nga vet\u00ebdija e vet\u00ebdijshme.
Megjith\u00ebse p\u00ebrmbajtja e t\u00eb pand\u00ebrgjegjshmes nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt e aksesueshme, Frojdi besonte se k\u00ebto mendime, kujtime dhe d\u00ebshira mund t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb sjellje. Frojdi gjithashtu besonte se e pavet\u00ebdijshmja mund t\u00eb eksplorohej p\u00ebrmes procedurave t\u00eb tilla si analiza e \u00ebndrrave, shoq\u00ebrimi i lir\u00eb, hipnoza, rr\u00ebshqitjet frojdiane dhe psikoanaliza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sipas Jesse Lyon<\/strong>, k\u00ebshilltar i licencuar i sh\u00ebndetit mendor dhe pronar i Lyon Counseling<\/strong> n\u00eb Casselberry, Florida, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrosh p\u00ebr dik\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb s\u00eb pari t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se \u00ebndrrat komunikojn\u00eb informacion n\u00eb dy nivele t\u00eb ndryshme. K\u00ebto nivele njihen si p\u00ebrmbajtje demostruese dhe p\u00ebrmbajtje e fsheht\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebrmbajtja e dukshme e nj\u00eb \u00ebndrre \u00ebsht\u00eb ngjarjet dhe imazhet aktuale q\u00eb ndodhin brenda \u00ebndrr\u00ebs.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebrmbajtja e fshehur e nj\u00eb \u00ebndrre, v\u00ebren Lyon, \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb personale dhe emocionale<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
“N\u00ebse ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb shihni dik\u00eb q\u00eb shfaqet n\u00eb \u00ebndrrat tuaja, pyesni veten: “\u00c7far\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson ky person p\u00ebr mua?” sugjeron Lioni. N\u00ebse kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e juaja:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb n\u00ebse \u00ebnd\u00ebrroni p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb tuaj ose se po dilni me dik\u00eb? \u00cbnd\u00ebrrimi i nj\u00eb interesi dashurie mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb rreth kuptimit t\u00eb qart\u00eb – ju jeni t\u00eb interesuar t\u00eb jeni me t\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb romantike. Megjithat\u00eb, v\u00ebren Lyon, kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht e gjith\u00eb historia. P\u00ebr shkak se \u00ebndrrat kan\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajtje t\u00eb hapur (ose fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr fjal\u00eb) dhe kuptime jo t\u00eb dukshem (ose m\u00eb simbolike), \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb merren parasysh t\u00eb dyja. P\u00ebrmbajtja e dukshme e \u00ebndrrave tuaja mund t\u00eb zbuloj\u00eb kuptime m\u00eb t\u00eb thella, n\u00ebnnd\u00ebrgjegjesh\u00ebm q\u00eb ia vlen t\u00eb eksplorohen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sipas Lyon, k\u00ebto \u00ebndrra mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb rreth:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cbndrrat jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb mund t\u00eb japin informacion p\u00ebr mendimet, ndjenjat, d\u00ebshirat dhe frik\u00ebn ton\u00eb n\u00ebnnd\u00ebrgjegjesh\u00ebm. Ata gjithashtu mund t\u00eb ofrojn\u00eb nj\u00eb perspektiv\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb n\u00eb thellimin e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve tuaja n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra q\u00eb mb\u00ebshtesin lidhjen dhe mir\u00ebqenien mendore. \u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb mbani mend, v\u00ebren Lyon, se t\u00eb gjitha rolet e shumta q\u00eb luajm\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb funksionojn\u00eb si personazhe q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb brenda mendjes son\u00eb. Personazhet q\u00eb luajm\u00eb (si prind\u00ebrit, partner\u00ebt, miqt\u00eb ose koleg\u00ebt) p\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb tablon\u00eb e plot\u00eb t\u00eb asaj se kush jemi ne si individ\u00eb<\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"