Q\u00ebllimi i k\u00ebtij artikulli \u00ebsht\u00eb t’ju tregoj\u00eb se si t\u00eb merrni vendime dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebheni m\u00eb vendimtar\u00eb. N\u00ebse jeni duke luftuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur se \u00e7far\u00eb karriere t\u00eb ndiqni, ku t\u00eb l\u00ebvizni ose \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebpuce t\u00eb blini, strategjit\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb gjeni k\u00ebtu do t’ju ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb merrni vendime me besim dhe leht\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe dhe t\u00eb hiqni dor\u00eb nga frika q\u00eb ju pengon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse e keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb merrni vendime t\u00eb shpejta ose t\u00eb mb\u00ebshteteni te t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr konfirmim ose p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb vendime p\u00ebr ju, ky kapitull do t’ju tregoj\u00eb se si t\u00eb ndryshoni duke marr\u00eb kontrollin e jet\u00ebs tuaj dhe duke jetuar me vendosm\u00ebri. N\u00eb vendimet komplekse ndiqni reagimin tuaj t\u00eb par\u00eb instinktiv. Studiuesit n\u00eb Universitetin e Amsterdamit treguan se sa m\u00eb komplekse t\u00eb jen\u00eb vendimet, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndiqni reagimin tuaj fillestar t\u00eb zorr\u00ebve, hahhhaaa . <\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb zgjedhjet relativisht t\u00eb thjeshta, si p.sh. cilin peshqir t\u00eb blini, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e dobishme t\u00eb peshoni t\u00eb mirat dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat. \u00c7udit\u00ebrisht, megjithat\u00eb, sa m\u00eb kompleks t\u00eb jet\u00eb vendimi, p.sh. cilat mobilje apo \u00e7far\u00eb makine t\u00eb blini, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb lini pavet\u00ebdijen tuaj t’ju udh\u00ebheq\u00eb dhe t’i besoni intuit\u00ebs suaj. Pavendosm\u00ebria mund t’ju b\u00ebj\u00eb konfuz. Dhe n\u00ebse kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ju ndodh shpesh, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb penges\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme n\u00eb jet\u00ebn dhe zhvillimin tuaj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ka raste kur ne luftojm\u00eb p\u00ebr or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim. Ne humbim shum\u00eb koh\u00eb duke u p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb gjejm\u00eb produktin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, t\u00eb shkruajm\u00eb emailin e p\u00ebrsosur, t\u00eb vendosim se \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb porosisim. Her\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, pasi kemi marr\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim, nuk jemi t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur me zgjedhjen ton\u00eb dhe pyesim veten n\u00ebse duhet t\u00eb kishim zgjedhur di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00ebnyra se si merrni vendime ndikon shum\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj. P\u00ebrcakton n\u00ebse do t\u00eb veproj\u00eb apo do t\u00eb mbetet joaktiv. N\u00ebse do t\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzoni nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb ju shfaqet ose n\u00ebse do t\u00eb hezitoni. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kapitull do t\u00eb shohim se si mendja jon\u00eb na mbron kur marrim vendime “t\u00eb k\u00ebqija”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse jeni kronikisht i pavendosur, ka strategji efektive p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb vendime m\u00eb t\u00eb lehta, strategji p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar vendosm\u00ebrin\u00eb tuaj dhe ky artikull do t’ju tregoj\u00eb se si ta b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“Perfeksionist\u00eb” dhe “t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur”<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb blejn\u00eb di\u00e7ka, ata shikojn\u00eb disa opsione dhe n\u00ebse gjejn\u00eb di\u00e7ka me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn jan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur, ata e blejn\u00eb at\u00eb. Ata nuk kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr perfeksion dhe k\u00ebshtu jeta e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh m\u00eb e relaksuar. Rregulli baz\u00eb q\u00eb ata ndjekin n\u00eb marrjen e vendimeve \u00ebsht\u00eb ky: “E mira \u00ebsht\u00eb mjaft e mir\u00eb. Dhe, p\u00ebr shkak se ata nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb motivuar nga “perfekti”, ata nuk do t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjehen n\u00ebse, pasi t\u00eb zgjedhin, vjen di\u00e7ka m\u00eb e mir\u00eb”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, “perfeksionist\u00ebt” zakonisht e vonojn\u00eb zgjedhjen, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht kur e din\u00eb se nuk mund t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb mendje – sepse po sikur t\u00eb vij\u00eb di\u00e7ka m\u00eb e mir\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen sesa zgjedhjet q\u00eb kan\u00eb tani? N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kuptim, ata jan\u00eb vazhdimisht n\u00eb k\u00ebrkim t\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebs. Dhe kjo mund t\u00eb pengoj\u00eb lumturin\u00eb e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bota e zgjedhjeve<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kjo na \u00e7on n\u00eb nj\u00eb pik\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme kur na paraqiten shum\u00eb zgjedhje, zakonisht marrim vendime m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebqija. N\u00eb nj\u00eb eksperiment, kur pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebsve iu dha nj\u00eb gam\u00eb m\u00eb e vog\u00ebl e \u00e7okollat\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur – gjasht\u00eb lloje – ata kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb blinin disa nga t\u00eb gjitha sesa kur u paraqit\u00ebn me mbi tridhjet\u00eb lloje \u00e7okollate. Kur kemi mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb kufizuara, ne jemi m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur me at\u00eb q\u00eb blejm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n E nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb ndodh edhe me zgjedhjen e profesionit.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Student\u00ebt t\u00eb cil\u00ebve u k\u00ebrkohet t\u00eb shkruajn\u00eb nj\u00eb ese, por u jepet m\u00eb pak tema p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur, b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb se ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb temash. Duket se m\u00eb pak \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb. Kur shohim m\u00eb pak gj\u00ebra dhe jemi t\u00eb rrethuar nga m\u00eb pak gj\u00ebra, zgjedhja \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e leht\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sistemi imunitar i shpirtit<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb ne i shtyjm\u00eb vendimet tona sepse kemi frik\u00eb. Ne kemi frik\u00eb nga rreziqet q\u00eb vijn\u00eb me nj\u00eb zgjedhje, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse nuk mund ta ndryshojm\u00eb at\u00eb. Jemi t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuar se nuk do t\u00eb ket\u00eb rezultatin q\u00eb shpresonim dhe se kjo do t\u00eb na ndikoj\u00eb negativisht p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb. Por ajo q\u00eb ne nuk e kuptojm\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se ne zakonisht mbivler\u00ebsojm\u00eb se sa keq do t\u00eb ndihemi n\u00ebse di\u00e7ka nuk shkon si\u00e7 duhet. N\u00eb fakt, ne sh\u00ebrohemi shum\u00eb m\u00eb shpejt nga sa mendojm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Si p\u00ebrfundim cdo zgjidhje q\u00eb ne bejm\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtire dhe k\u00ebrkon maturi, nese b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr dicka mjaft serioze dhe komplekse duhet t\u00eb vendosim me d\u00ebshiren dhe zemr\u00ebn ton\u00eb, “para dhe mbrapa”cfaredo q\u00eb t\u00eb ndodhe dhe vendimi qe ne marrim duhet t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb an\u00ebn pozitive dhe an\u00ebn negative q\u00eb ky vendim na d\u00ebrgon t\u00eb bejme, ne kemi lindur t\u00eb lire dhe do t\u00eb vdesim t\u00eb till\u00eb. Cdo kufi apo vendimsi n\u00eb k\u00ebte jet\u00eb vjen si pasoje e nj\u00eb prove t\u00eb fort\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdimsis ton\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn apo dhe t\u00eb keq\u00ebn. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Q\u00ebllimi i k\u00ebtij artikulli \u00ebsht\u00eb t’ju tregoj\u00eb se si t\u00eb merrni vendime dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebheni m\u00eb vendimtar\u00eb. N\u00ebse jeni duke luftuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur se \u00e7far\u00eb karriere t\u00eb ndiqni, ku t\u00eb l\u00ebvizni ose \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebpuce t\u00eb blini, strategjit\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb gjeni k\u00ebtu do t’ju ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb merrni vendime me besim dhe leht\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":175,"featured_media":5145,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-6837","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji"},"yoast_head":"\n
Psikologu Barry Swartz<\/strong> zbuloi se njer\u00ebzit mund t\u00eb kategorizohen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme bazuar n\u00eb stilin e tyre t\u00eb vendimmarrjes. Disa jan\u00eb “perfeksionist\u00eb”, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb maksimizojn\u00eb p\u00ebrfitimin e plot\u00ebsimit t\u00eb nevojave t\u00eb tyre, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, “k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsit” jan\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht e kund\u00ebrta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse jeni nj\u00eb perfeksionist me zgjedhjet tuaja, mund ta keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jetoni n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb me kaq shum\u00eb t\u00eb mira materiale q\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb vazhdimisht.<\/strong> N\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme kemi m\u00eb shum\u00eb zgjedhje se kurr\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb. E t\u00ebra \u00e7far\u00eb ju duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebni \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb shkoni n\u00eb internet dhe t\u00eb shihni nj\u00eb mori ushqimesh, seriale televizive, loj\u00ebra video dhe opsione t\u00eb shitjeve q\u00eb na p\u00ebrmbytin. N\u00ebse jeni nj\u00eb perfeksionist, mund t\u00eb tundoheni t\u00eb hulumtoni gjith\u00e7ka n\u00eb treg p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb blini di\u00e7ka \u2013 por si mund ta b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb kur ka dhjet\u00ebra, n\u00ebse jo qindra, opsione.<\/p>\n\n\n\n