Qoft\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb sistemit t\u00eb mediave sociale apo presioneve sociale, shumica prej nesh p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb paraqesin sjelljet tona m\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebshirueshme dhe t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse, p\u00ebr shembull n\u00eb k\u00ebrkimin ton\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb partner ose p\u00ebr ndonj\u00eb q\u00ebllim tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo paraqitje vet\u00ebm e element\u00ebve tan\u00eb \u201cpozitiv\u201d pothuajse me siguri do t\u00eb na sjell\u00eb p\u00ebrball\u00eb disa probleme, pasi n\u00eb rrjedh\u00ebn e nj\u00eb njohjeje, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pashmangshme do t\u00eb dalin n\u00eb drit\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb \u201cskeletet nga dollapi\u201d. Secili prej nesh vjen me “bagazhin” e tij emocional dhe mendor dhe kur m\u00eb n\u00eb fund del n\u00eb drit\u00eb, mund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjim, i cili mund t\u00eb prish\u00eb dhe shkund\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shumica e njer\u00ebzve pretendojn\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e tyre p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb shkaqeve t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb shfaqura dhe t\u00eb fshehura m\u00eb par\u00eb t\u00eb ndarjes ose krizave, si pabesia ose var\u00ebsit\u00eb, etj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Natyrisht, konstatohet se shpesh ka karakteristika dhe sjellje q\u00eb mund ta largojn\u00eb partnerin, edhe kur nuk jan\u00eb aq t\u00eb dukshme. Njer\u00ebzit hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb re duke mbartur k\u00ebto sjellje tashm\u00eb, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme, dhe pa vet\u00ebdije mund t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb profeci vet\u00eb-p\u00ebrmbush\u00ebse t\u00eb d\u00ebshtimit t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies n\u00ebse nuk e din\u00eb se po sillen n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ka disa sjellje karakteristike q\u00eb shfaqen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur. E p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb se nuk shfaqen aq leht\u00eb n\u00eb fazat e hershme t\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje, por me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, duke shkaktuar shp\u00ebrthime emocionale.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Fyerjet dhe Zem\u00ebrimi.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Shprehjet e vazhdueshme t\u00eb zem\u00ebrimit dhe pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb shpesh tolerohen nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt n\u00eb fillim. Por gjat\u00eb rrug\u00ebs p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj.Shumic\u00ebn e koh\u00ebs jan\u00eb mbules\u00eb p\u00ebr pasigurin\u00eb, por gjithsesi injektojn\u00eb toksicitet n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie kur shprehen vazhdimisht.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Hipervigjilenc\u00eb. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb projektosh vazhdimisht n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka urgjente q\u00eb ka t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb t\u00eb vij\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e dobishme pasi krijon ankth t\u00eb fort\u00eb. Njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonshme nuk mund t\u00eb pushojn\u00eb, ata jan\u00eb n\u00eb kriz\u00eb dhe vazhdimisht t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr betej\u00eb. Fokusi i tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb te e ardhmja dhe ata nuk mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb po ndodh tani, k\u00ebtu dhe tani.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Toleranc\u00eb e ul\u00ebt ndaj shqet\u00ebsimit.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A zem\u00ebroheni leht\u00eb? Jeni shpesh t\u00eb irrituar nga shumica e njer\u00ebzve dhe situatave? A reagoni shpejt kur gj\u00ebrat nuk shkojn\u00eb si\u00e7 prisnit? A mendoni se shpesh u b\u00ebhet thirrje t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve q\u00eb t’ju qet\u00ebsojn\u00eb? Askush nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb pran\u00eb nj\u00eb personi q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq intolerant ndaj shum\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjeve t\u00eb vogla t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme. Nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim i till\u00eb heq g\u00ebzimin e \u00e7do gj\u00ebje t\u00eb mir\u00eb ose t\u00eb lumtur ku mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendroheni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 \u201cRehatia\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A njihni dik\u00eb apo jeni dikush q\u00eb duhet t’i shqyrtoj\u00eb gj\u00ebrat vazhdimisht dhe t\u00eb rijetoj\u00eb \u00e7do moment t\u00eb mundimsh\u00ebm? T\u00eb fiksuarit p\u00ebr t’i arritur gj\u00ebrat n\u00eb fund, edhe n\u00ebse ato p\u00ebrs\u00ebriten pafund, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e k\u00ebndshme p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb ju rrethojn\u00eb. Zakonisht, nj\u00eb ve\u00e7ori e till\u00eb ju b\u00ebn vazhdimisht t\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb me ato k\u00ebrkime t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetshme q\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb japin informacione t\u00eb reja, t\u00eb cilat mund t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb v\u00ebrtet n\u00eb \u00e7do situat\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 N\u00eb epiqend\u00ebr. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jesh n\u00eb an\u00ebn e kund\u00ebrt t\u00eb dikujt q\u00eb mund ta shoh\u00eb bot\u00ebn vet\u00ebm nga ana e vet, flet vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr veten e tij, nuk pyet p\u00ebr nevojat e tua, nuk d\u00ebgjon at\u00eb q\u00eb i thua dhe d\u00ebshiron gjithmon\u00eb ” pjesa e luanit\u201d n\u00eb \u00e7do situat\u00eb. N\u00ebse ky person \u00ebsht\u00eb karizmatik dhe emocionues, n\u00eb fillim mund t’ju zgjoj\u00eb interesin, por n\u00ebse shqet\u00ebsoheni p\u00ebr t\u00eb konkurruar, kjo nuk do t’ju \u00e7oj\u00eb askund.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Vite \u201cVones\u00eb\u201d. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Thjesht nuk ka asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb suksesshme p\u00ebr t’u marr\u00eb me nj\u00eb person q\u00eb ju mban vazhdimisht n\u00eb pritje. \u00cbsht\u00eb e mundur q\u00eb t\u00eb ndiheni keq kur ju b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, ndaj \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb zem\u00ebroheni, por n\u00eb fund nuk do t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb mir\u00eb. Arsyeja m\u00eb e zakonshme p\u00ebr vones\u00ebn dhe vones\u00ebn kronike \u00ebsht\u00eb pasiviteti. K\u00ebta njer\u00ebz nuk mund t\u00eb ndalojn\u00eb leht\u00ebsisht at\u00eb q\u00eb po b\u00ebjn\u00eb dhe nuk planifikojn\u00eb si\u00e7 duhet koh\u00ebn e nevojshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar nga nj\u00eb situat\u00eb n\u00eb tjetr\u00ebn. Megjithat\u00eb, p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00ebdo arsye q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb se ato veprojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb pasive-agresive dhe nuk mund t\u00eb tolerohen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Mosp\u00ebrputhja\/Shkelja e Marr\u00ebveshjes. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Thyerja e vazhdueshme e marr\u00ebveshjeve \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e sigurt p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjet\u00ebrsuar t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Besimi n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie \u00ebsht\u00eb thelbi i suksesit t\u00eb saj. N\u00ebse dikush d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb ruaj\u00eb besimin tuaj, at\u00ebher\u00eb ai nuk mund t\u00eb injoroj\u00eb ose racionalizoj\u00eb thyerjen e nj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshjeje pa nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr rinegocim ose nj\u00eb premtim t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar at\u00eb sjellje. \u00cbsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb njer\u00ebzore t\u00eb b\u00ebsh nj\u00eb premtim dhe ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb mos jesh n\u00eb gjendje ta mbajm\u00eb at\u00eb, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabuar t\u00eb mos njoh\u00ebsh dhe t\u00eb kuptosh d\u00ebmin q\u00eb mund t’i shkaktoj\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 “I lir\u00eb”.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nj\u00eb person i cili vazhdimisht dyshon se po p\u00ebrfitohet \u00ebsht\u00eb vazhdimisht i shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka, duke keqinterpretuar shum\u00eb situata, Ai mund ta tregoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, p\u00ebr shembull duke mos dh\u00ebn\u00eb bakshish n\u00eb nj\u00eb priz\u00eb, duke negociuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb marr\u00ebveshjen m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do nd\u00ebrveprim, duke “marr\u00eb” m\u00eb shum\u00eb. leht\u00ebsisht se sa \u201ct\u00eb jap\u00ebsh\u201d dhe t\u00eb akuzosh vazhdimisht t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr shfryt\u00ebzim. Ai nuk mendon se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt e meritojn\u00eb bujarin\u00eb e tij, n\u00ebse nuk e kan\u00eb fituar m\u00eb par\u00eb, gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje me standardet e tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 Sarkazma\/Ironia. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ngacmimet lozonjare jan\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht t\u00eb pranueshme n\u00ebse personi me t\u00eb cilin po b\u00ebjm\u00eb shaka e d\u00ebshiron k\u00ebt\u00eb nd\u00ebrveprim. Sidoqoft\u00eb, n\u00eb shum\u00eb raste, sarkazma dhe ironia kan\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb niveli p\u00ebrbuzjeje ose talljeje. Shakaja ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me personin n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, i cili mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb mjaft mir\u00ebdash\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb qeshur, por duhet nj\u00eb ekuilib\u00ebr delikat p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e tepruar. Njer\u00ebzit sarkastik\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb pasigurt, t\u00eb pak\u00ebndsh\u00ebm me intimitetin ose t\u00eb frik\u00ebsuar se mos tallen vet\u00eb. Sigurisht p\u00ebrtej toleranc\u00ebs fillestare dhe faktit q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb v\u00ebrtet nj\u00eb q\u00ebllim jo edhe aq t\u00eb keq, nj\u00eb sjellje e till\u00eb b\u00ebhet gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb e pad\u00ebshirueshme me kalimin e koh\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2022 \u201cViktima e p\u00ebrjetshme\u201d. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb gjith\u00eb kalojn\u00eb periudha n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira dhe p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb nj\u00eb traum\u00eb serioze ose humbje t\u00eb konsiderueshme. Shumica e njer\u00ebzve b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb munden p\u00ebr t’u rikuperuar dhe p\u00ebr t’u rikthyer n\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse k\u00ebrkon koh\u00eb. Por ka edhe nga ata q\u00eb duket se jetojn\u00eb si viktima t\u00eb p\u00ebrhershme. Dikush gjithmon\u00eb i b\u00ebn keq. Ata po mashtrohen. T\u00eb tjer\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb me ta. Asnj\u00eb nga k\u00ebto nuk mund t’i b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb durueshme situatat q\u00eb ata p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb dhe askush nuk mund ta kuptoj\u00eb thell\u00ebsin\u00eb e d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimit t\u00eb tyre. Shum\u00eb do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb, por pa dobi. Ata i n\u00ebnshtrohen gjykimit t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Qoft\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb sistemit t\u00eb mediave sociale apo presioneve sociale, shumica prej nesh p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb paraqesin sjelljet tona m\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebshirueshme dhe t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse, p\u00ebr shembull n\u00eb k\u00ebrkimin ton\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb partner ose p\u00ebr ndonj\u00eb q\u00ebllim tjet\u00ebr. Kjo paraqitje vet\u00ebm e element\u00ebve tan\u00eb \u201cpozitiv\u201d pothuajse me siguri do t\u00eb na sjell\u00eb p\u00ebrball\u00eb disa probleme, pasi […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":4048,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-6494","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji"},"yoast_head":"\n