Sa breza jan\u00eb rritur me shprehjen \u201cKujdes! \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb?’ T\u00eb tjer\u00ebt\u2026 Ata q\u00eb kemi m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb kemi frik\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thon\u00eb p\u00ebr ne dhe fatkeq\u00ebsisht i kemi lejuar t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb rol m\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb sesa ne! Ata p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebt, thell\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete, ne e detyrojm\u00eb veten t\u00eb projektojm\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur dhe pa t\u00eb meta. Ata q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb mos zhg\u00ebnjeheni. Ata p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebt p\u00ebrpiqesh t\u00eb jesh, ose t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn dukesh t\u00eb jesh, i duhuri\u2026 normali.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ata t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt\u2026do t\u00eb ken\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb, gjykuar, komentuar p\u00ebr ju. Edhe n\u00ebse u jepni m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn tuaj, edhe n\u00ebse i ushqeni me sukseset tuaja, edhe n\u00ebse p\u00ebrfundoni duke u dh\u00ebn\u00eb atyre gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj duke b\u00ebr\u00eb zgjedhje q\u00eb nuk ju p\u00ebrshtaten vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrshtatur n\u00eb kall\u00ebpet e tyre. Po, edhe at\u00ebher\u00eb, ata do t\u00eb ken\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nga nevoja jon\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrshtatur diku, nga barra e frik\u00ebs q\u00eb mbajm\u00eb p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb mendojn\u00eb ata p\u00ebrreth nesh, u krijuan etiketa. Ato q\u00eb i ngjitemi me nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebn me shum\u00eb leht\u00ebsi! Etiketa e t\u00eb djatht\u00ebs, t\u00eb suksesshmit, t\u00eb arsimuarit, shpirt\u00ebrores, heteroseksualit, f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb mir\u00eb\u2026e mij\u00ebra t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb betej\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb po b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb t\u00eb bien n\u00eb sy dhe t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb etiketat e duhura n\u00eb vetvete. Ato t\u00eb pranueshme nga shoq\u00ebria! Por ka edhe etiketa t\u00eb tjera. Ato pak m\u00eb t\u00eb rrezikshmet! Ata q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gati n\u00eb \u00e7do moment t\u00eb gjykoj\u00eb, t\u00eb gur\u00ebzoj\u00eb leht\u00eb zemr\u00ebn, \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrshtatet n\u00eb kall\u00ebpet e tyre tashm\u00eb t\u00eb vendosura\u2026p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb m\u00eb pak, p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, apo thjesht ndryshe! Askush nuk d\u00ebshiron t’i ket\u00eb k\u00ebto etiketa t\u00eb ngjitura mbi to, sepse n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, “\u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb mendojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Por historia nuk ndalet me kaq, pasi gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e lidhur. Nga frika se mos kemi etiket\u00ebn e gabuar mbi ne, ne vendosim, shum\u00eb shpesh, trupin dhe shpirtin p\u00ebr t\u00eb jetuar brenda nj\u00eb armature prej \u00e7eliku, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb askush t\u00eb mos shoh\u00eb veten e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb fshihet pas. Nj\u00eb vetvete q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e destinuar t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbaj\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka harmonike brenda vetes. Pasiguria me fuqin\u00eb, e keqja me mir\u00ebsin\u00eb, drita me err\u00ebsir\u00ebn\u2026t\u00eb gjitha n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin mish!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo armatur\u00eb, n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn vrapojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u fshehur, ka marr\u00eb nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb rrem\u00eb mbrojt\u00ebsi. Mban t\u00eb mbrojtura pasigurit\u00eb, dob\u00ebsit\u00eb, t\u00eb pambrojturit dhe pjes\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb keqkuptuara t\u00eb karakterit ton\u00eb\u2026 ruan n\u00eb err\u00ebsir\u00eb \u200b\u200bgjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk duhet par\u00eb. Dhe k\u00ebshtu jeta vazhdon me disa nga d\u00ebshirat tona m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, d\u00ebshirat tona m\u00eb t\u00eb forta dhe rrahjet tona m\u00eb t\u00eb forta t\u00eb zemr\u00ebs duke mos par\u00eb kurr\u00eb drit\u00ebn e dit\u00ebs. I fshehur pas burgut t\u00eb blinduar. Pra, burgu m\u00eb i madh dhe m\u00eb i trishtuar \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jetosh me frik\u00ebn e asaj q\u00eb do t\u00eb thon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, dhe t\u00eb lejosh q\u00eb kjo frik\u00eb t’ju pengoj\u00eb t\u00eb jetoni jet\u00ebn tuaj ashtu si\u00e7 d\u00ebshironi v\u00ebrtet!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb e padrejt\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizojm\u00eb veten bazuar n\u00eb fjal\u00ebt e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve! Mos kini frik\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebr \u201c\u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt\u201d\u2026 mbani mend se ata q\u00eb ju rrethojn\u00eb do t\u00eb ken\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb! Mos e ndal m\u00eb zhvillimin e jet\u00ebs t\u00ebnde duke menduar: “Si do t\u00eb komentojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt?” apo “do ta miratojn\u00eb?” sepse mos harro se nuk mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktosh goj\u00ebn e t\u00eb tret\u00ebve, ata gjithmon\u00eb do t\u00eb ken\u00eb arsye t\u00eb hapen dhe t\u00eb gjykojn\u00eb ty dhe zgjedhjet e tua dhe n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve nuk do t\u00eb ket\u00eb as t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me ty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne nuk mund dhe nuk duhet ta nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb bazuar n\u00eb mendimin e atyre q\u00eb na rrethojn\u00eb! Sa i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb mendimi i tyre. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t’i b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb miratojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj, ju nuk do t\u00eb jeni n\u00eb gjendje t’i mbani t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur gjithsesi. \u00c7\u00ebshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb se ne vet\u00eb gjejm\u00eb substanc\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Le t\u00eb ken\u00eb kuptim p\u00ebr shpirtin tuaj zgjedhjet tuaja, q\u00ebndrimi juaj, jeta juaj e p\u00ebrditshme.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Sa breza jan\u00eb rritur me shprehjen \u201cKujdes! \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb?’ T\u00eb tjer\u00ebt\u2026 Ata q\u00eb kemi m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb kemi frik\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thon\u00eb p\u00ebr ne dhe fatkeq\u00ebsisht i kemi lejuar t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb rol m\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb sesa ne! Ata p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebt, thell\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4221,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[590],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-4888","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-shoqeri"},"yoast_head":"\n