Fundi i nj\u00eb lidhjeje \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht sa zgjat dhe kushdo q\u00eb vendos. Fazat e ndarjes kan\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt me ato t\u00eb hidherimit, si ndjenjat e mohimit, zem\u00ebrimit dhe p\u00ebrfundimisht pranimi. Por sa koh\u00eb na duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcyer nj\u00eb ndarje?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk ka p\u00ebrgjigje specifike, konfirmojn\u00eb psikolog\u00ebt. Varet nga sa zgjati lidhja, sa fort ndiheshim p\u00ebr t\u00eb, sa investuam dhe sa e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme ishte ajo n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Zakonisht, megjithat\u00eb, procesi zhvillohet brenda 3-4 muajve t\u00eb par\u00eb, por marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e jet\u00ebs mund t\u00eb duhen 1-2 vjet p\u00ebr t’u kap\u00ebrcyer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Faza e dyt\u00eb: Mohimi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb mohim, zakonisht nxjerrim n\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaqe t\u00eb gjitha ato gj\u00ebra q\u00eb partneri yn\u00eb kishte th\u00ebn\u00eb dhe q\u00eb tregonin se lidhja do t\u00eb vazhdonte. Fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb se pasi i themi t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur t\u00eb ndahemi. Ne p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u00eb bindim veten se ish-partneri yn\u00eb nuk e kishte menduar ose se do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb mendje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Faza e tret\u00eb: Negocimi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ne do t\u00eb fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha “po sikur” dhe shpesh t\u00eb faj\u00ebsojm\u00eb veten p\u00ebr gabimet q\u00eb kan\u00eb ndodhur n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie. Pas nj\u00eb kohe dhe pasi t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebt i shohin gj\u00ebrat me m\u00eb shum\u00eb qart\u00ebsi mendore, jemi dakord q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb shmangni komunikimin n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb faz\u00eb. N\u00eb fazat e hershme, ne jo gjithmon\u00eb mendojm\u00eb logjikisht, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb n\u00ebse doni t\u00eb ecni p\u00ebrpara dhe t\u00eb sh\u00ebroni plag\u00ebn tuaj, ju t\u00eb dyve ju duhet hap\u00ebsir\u00eb \u200b\u200be mjaftueshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Faza 4: Zem\u00ebrimi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb kombinim i gj\u00ebrave. Shpesh, megjithat\u00eb, zem\u00ebrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb emocion q\u00eb shfaqet p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb p\u00ebrballemi me gj\u00ebra m\u00eb t\u00eb thella, si dhimbje, zhg\u00ebnjim, turp, d\u00ebshp\u00ebrim, etj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Hapi 5: Trishtim dhe hidherimi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, ne duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrballemi me humbjen e besimit q\u00eb lidhja na siguronte, si planet e s\u00eb ardhmes, miqt\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, familja dhe gjith\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb ndam\u00eb. K\u00ebtu lindin shpesh ndjenja t\u00eb forta trishtimi, braktisjeje dhe vetmie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Faza e 6-t\u00eb: Pranimi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Por \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb kihet parasysh se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gam\u00eb pranimi, sepse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb lineare. Disa momente jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb lehta, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt kthehen n\u00eb mohim ose negocim. Por ajo q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e sigurt \u00ebsht\u00eb se gradualisht po shk\u00ebputemi mend\u00ebrisht nga ky person. Ne e mendojm\u00eb veten p\u00ebrs\u00ebri si nj\u00eb nj\u00ebsi dhe shohim para nesh fillime dhe shpresa t\u00eb reja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Faza 7:<\/strong> Ecja p\u00ebrpara<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Fundi i nj\u00eb lidhjeje \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht sa zgjat dhe kushdo q\u00eb vendos. Fazat e ndarjes kan\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt me ato t\u00eb hidherimit, si ndjenjat e mohimit, zem\u00ebrimit dhe p\u00ebrfundimisht pranimi. Por sa koh\u00eb na duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcyer nj\u00eb ndarje? Nuk ka p\u00ebrgjigje specifike, konfirmojn\u00eb psikolog\u00ebt. Varet nga sa […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3741,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[522,590],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-4237","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-depresion","8":"category-shoqeri"},"yoast_head":"\n
Faza e par\u00eb: Shoku<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo faz\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht intensive n\u00ebse nuk e merrnim vendimin ose as nuk dyshonim se do ta merrnim. N\u00eb shok ne p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb dhimbje, \u00e7organizim dhe konfuzion. Ne mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi ta racionalizojm\u00eb at\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ndiejm\u00eb nj\u00eb nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar se \u00e7far\u00eb shkoi keq. Pyesim veten: “Pse ndodhi kjo?” ose “Si mund ta b\u00ebnte k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebr mua?” P\u00ebrgjigjet jan\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb komplekse. Por e dukshme “pse” \u00ebsht\u00eb reagimi yn\u00eb i par\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shoku dhe mohimi jan\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrthurura ngusht\u00eb teksa luftojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar realitetin. Nd\u00ebrsa i afrohemi mohimit, ne k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb informacione t\u00eb tjera dhe fokusohemi shum\u00eb n\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tilla si: “Ai tha se do t\u00eb m\u00eb donte p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb” ose “Ai premtoi se do t\u00eb shkonim me pushime”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb faz\u00eb mund t\u00eb kthehemi tek e para. N\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u00eb rregulluar dhe p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar gj\u00ebrat, ne mund t\u00eb fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb negociojm\u00eb – me veten ose me t\u00eb. Jemi t\u00eb tunduar t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb pyetje si “\u00c7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj ndryshe?” dhe “A mund t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb shans tjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb provojm\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pas tre fazave t\u00eb para, realiteti i ndarjes fillon t\u00eb \u201culet\u201d brenda nesh. Dhe lind nj\u00eb zem\u00ebrim p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ka ndodhur. Kjo faz\u00eb mund t\u00eb vij\u00eb nga shum\u00eb vende t\u00eb ndryshme n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb kontekstit t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies. Jeni t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar sepse ndiheni t\u00eb tradhtuar? Sepse ndarja erdhi papritur? Jeni t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar me veten q\u00eb nuk investoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sapo ulet zem\u00ebrimi, fillon procesi i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb i hidherimit. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb, ne po e pranojm\u00eb gradualisht realitetin, megjith\u00ebse mund t\u00eb mos e keni pranuar ende q\u00eb ai ka mbaruar me siguri. Dhimbja e nj\u00eb lidhjeje \u00ebsht\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht normale dhe e pritshme. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb humbasim personin me t\u00eb cilin ishim, por n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre humbasim edhe an\u00ebn ton\u00eb q\u00eb shprehej n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb ne shohim nj\u00eb drit\u00eb n\u00eb fund t\u00eb tunelit. Kur fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb pranojm\u00eb ndarjen, jeta fillon t\u00eb ket\u00eb s\u00ebrish disa elemente pozitive. Fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se kjo marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie nuk ishte shansi yn\u00eb i vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr lumturi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
K\u00ebtu jo vet\u00ebm e kemi pranuar ndarjen, por tashm\u00eb shohim nj\u00eb histori t\u00eb plot\u00eb, t\u00eb \u201cmbyllur\u201d t\u00eb s\u00eb shkuar\u00ebs. Jemi t\u00eb \u00e7liruar emocionalisht dhe mend\u00ebrisht nga individi. Ne fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb shohim mund\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb ekzistojn\u00eb rreth nesh, edhe n\u00ebse nuk duam domosdoshm\u00ebrisht t’i shfryt\u00ebzojm\u00eb ato. Ne fokusohemi tek vetja, tek nevojat dhe d\u00ebshirat tona.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"