T\u00eb gjitha marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet, familja, miq\u00ebsia, dashuria bazohen n\u00eb dh\u00ebnien dhe marrjen. Megjithat\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e detyrueshme t\u00eb marrim mbrapsht gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb kemi dh\u00ebn\u00eb, pasi si\u00e7 dihet para se t\u00eb hyjm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje, askush nuk n\u00ebnshkruan nj\u00eb kontrat\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrcakton se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb jap\u00eb dhe \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb marr\u00eb me sakt\u00ebsi dhe qart\u00ebsi. Secili an\u00ebtar i nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje ofron at\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb ndaj\u00eb nga rezervat e tij mendore. Nuk ka kufij t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar qart\u00eb, nuk ka rregulla p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjithashtu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gjithashtu, dikush mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb sfond t\u00eb mir\u00eb financiar, nd\u00ebrsa nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr jo, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb t\u00eb krahasohen gj\u00ebra t\u00eb ndryshme. Secili ofron at\u00eb q\u00eb ka n\u00eb dispozicion: dashuri, t\u00eb mira materiale. E nxjerr dhe e jep nga shpirti, pa i goditur gj\u00ebrat. Ju e b\u00ebni at\u00eb sepse d\u00ebshironi dhe sepse mundeni. Sepse i ndjen gj\u00ebrat p\u00ebr gjysm\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, sepse d\u00ebshiron ta b\u00ebsh t\u00eb lumtur dhe kur shikon lumturin\u00eb t\u00eb pasqyruar n\u00eb syt\u00eb e tij, ndjen k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi morale, ndjen se meriton t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb mirat e bot\u00ebs, sepse e b\u00ebre. Kjo ndjenj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e pa\u00e7mueshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sigurisht, dashuria nuk mund t\u00eb matet me fasule,apo cekollata. \u201cDashuria nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dyqan ushqimor p\u00ebr t\u00eb matur at\u00eb q\u00eb ke ti, at\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb dhe tjetri ka.Dashuria presupozon guxim, vet\u00ebmohimi, vet\u00ebflijimi \u00ebsht\u00eb larg egoizmit dhe mjerimit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ose dashuroni dhe bini n\u00eb dashuri me gjith\u00eb fuqin\u00eb tuaj ose jeni indiferent. Nuk ka asgj\u00eb n\u00eb mes. Dhe n\u00ebse nuk ndiheni gati t\u00eb p\u00ebrballeni me k\u00ebto ndjenja origjinale dhe t\u00eb luftoni deri n\u00eb fund p\u00ebr to, at\u00ebher\u00eb mos u shqet\u00ebsoni se patjet\u00ebr do t\u00eb jet\u00eb dikush tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebnte gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb njeriun e tij t\u00eb lumtur. N\u00ebse nuk imagjinoni zjarre qymyri, mos luani, si\u00e7 thot\u00eb zakonisht nj\u00eb th\u00ebnie e njohur popullore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shum\u00eb her\u00eb d\u00ebgjoj nj\u00eb fraz\u00eb q\u00eb ma thoshte shpesh gjyshi im, njeri me parime t\u00eb vjetra, “Jep pa kujtuar dhe merr pa harruar.” Dhe pastaj shtoi: \u201cAskush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mosmir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs se bamir\u00ebsi\u201d. Nuk duhet t\u00eb harrojm\u00eb kurr\u00eb personin q\u00eb na ka p\u00ebrfituar, qoft\u00eb shok apo accomplice. Ne duhet t’i jemi gjithmon\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs atij dhe t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm n\u00eb \u00e7do koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t’ia kthyer t\u00eb mirat q\u00eb dikur na ka b\u00ebr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Secili jep at\u00eb q\u00eb ka n\u00eb shpirt, at\u00eb q\u00eb ka n\u00eb kopshtin e tij, si\u00e7 shprehet n\u00eb sh\u00ebmb\u00eblltyrat e tij n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb karakteristike Krishti. N\u00ebse e mira ka z\u00ebn\u00eb rr\u00ebnj\u00eb atje, at\u00ebher\u00eb vet\u00ebm kjo do t\u00eb shoh\u00eb, vet\u00ebm kjo do t\u00eb reflektohet n\u00eb kontaktet me njer\u00ebzit rreth tij. Por n\u00ebse e keqja, mjerimi, urrejtja i kan\u00eb rr\u00ebmbyer n\u00eb zem\u00ebr, at\u00ebher\u00eb k\u00ebto do t’i zbuloj\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do second t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sipas psikologjis\u00eb, ky rast padyshim lidhet me origjinen e familjes por edhe me personat tan\u00eb referues n\u00eb fazat e hershme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs son\u00eb. N\u00ebse nevojat tona plot\u00ebsohen n\u00eb fazat tona t\u00eb hershme t\u00eb zhvillimit, at\u00ebher\u00eb ne do t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dashurie, intimiteti, besimi n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb rritur. K\u00ebshtu, ne nuk do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb ujkun e keq n\u00eb fund t\u00eb tregimit, por p\u00ebrkundrazi do t\u00eb thirremi t\u00eb zbulojm\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha format e saj n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha shembullimet e saj.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
T\u00eb gjitha marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet, familja, miq\u00ebsia, dashuria bazohen n\u00eb dh\u00ebnien dhe marrjen. Megjithat\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e detyrueshme t\u00eb marrim mbrapsht gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb kemi dh\u00ebn\u00eb, pasi si\u00e7 dihet para se t\u00eb hyjm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje, askush nuk n\u00ebnshkruan nj\u00eb kontrat\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrcakton se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb jap\u00eb dhe \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb marr\u00eb me sakt\u00ebsi dhe qart\u00ebsi. Secili […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2654,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[590],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-4194","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-shoqeri"},"yoast_head":"\n