Fakti q\u00eb b\u00ebni shum\u00eb selfie nuk ju b\u00ebn automatikisht egoist – egoizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim psikologjik q\u00eb na b\u00ebn t\u00eb besojm\u00eb se ne jemi njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishit n\u00eb bot\u00eb. Egoizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu i lidhur ngusht\u00eb me nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb personalitetit q\u00eb kemi diskutuar n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn: \u00c7rregullimi i personalitetit narcizist. Sidoqoft\u00eb, ekzistojn\u00eb disa ndryshime t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme midis egocentrizmit (ose egomanis\u00eb), narcizmit dhe simptomave t\u00eb tjera. Dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendet, sepse “etiketat” e gabuara mund t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb probleme serioze p\u00ebr disa njer\u00ebz, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht ata q\u00eb tashm\u00eb po vuajn\u00eb psikologjikisht.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebr shembull, nj\u00eb person q\u00eb vuan nga depresioni i madh mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb egoist, por kjo sjellje bazohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb shkak tjet\u00ebr neurobiologjik (ai nuk mund t’i shp\u00ebtoj\u00eb mendimeve t\u00eb k\u00ebqija p\u00ebr veten dhe jet\u00ebn e tij dhe ndoshta m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si ai i referohet vetvetes nj\u00eb thirrje e d\u00ebshp\u00ebruar per ndihme). Depresioni n\u00eb \u00e7do form\u00eb, megjithat\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje serioze q\u00eb k\u00ebrkon trajtim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, Egomania shpesh p\u00ebrfshin egocentriz\u00ebm t\u00eb qart\u00eb, t\u00eb duksh\u00ebm; \u00e7rregullimi narcizist shpesh i p\u00ebrshtatet k\u00ebtij p\u00ebrshkrimi gjithashtu. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, nj\u00eb person i till\u00eb rrall\u00eb k\u00ebrkon ndihm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
10 sjellje t\u00eb zakonshme t\u00eb nj\u00eb personi egoist<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Fakti q\u00eb b\u00ebni shum\u00eb selfie nuk ju b\u00ebn automatikisht egoist – egoizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim psikologjik q\u00eb na b\u00ebn t\u00eb besojm\u00eb se ne jemi njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishit n\u00eb bot\u00eb. Egoizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu i lidhur ngusht\u00eb me nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb personalitetit q\u00eb kemi diskutuar n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn: \u00c7rregullimi i personalitetit […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3181,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3930","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-te-ndryshme"],"yoast_head":"\n
Si nj\u00eb tipar i pritsh\u00ebm, egotist\u00ebt e kan\u00eb kthyer v\u00ebmendjen e tyre pothuajse t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht te vetja. Ata nuk kujdesen p\u00ebr nevojat ose d\u00ebshirat e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve – kjo ide mund t\u00eb mos u shkoj\u00eb as n\u00eb mendje. Shumica e njer\u00ebzve jan\u00eb “egoist\u00eb” deri n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb mase, n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ne kujdesemi s\u00eb pari p\u00ebr veten dhe mbijetes\u00ebn ton\u00eb, por kjo sigurisht q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e natyrshme e t\u00eb menduarit. Pamund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t’u kujdesur p\u00ebr veten ton\u00eb – apo edhe p\u00ebrmbushja e nevojave tona themelore – do ta b\u00ebnte tmerr\u00ebsisht t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr ne t\u00eb ndihmonim dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Por njer\u00ebzit egoist\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb ose q\u00ebllim t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, pavar\u00ebsisht nga rrethanat.<\/li>
Librat e historis\u00eb jan\u00eb plot egotist\u00eb fanatik\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb treguar dhun\u00eb ekstreme: Hitleri, Stalini, Sadam Huseini dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Eshte pothuajse e sigurte q\u00eb ata q\u00eb arrijn\u00eb nivele ekstreme t\u00eb \u00e7njer\u00ebzimit jan\u00eb egoist\u00eb. Prandaj, egoist\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb interesuar p\u00ebr paqen dhe mir\u00ebqenien shoq\u00ebrore t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja pse shfaqja e s\u00eb keqes irracionale \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb element i p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt.<\/li>
Charles Darwin, themeluesi i teoris\u00eb evolucionare, dikur shkruajti: “Injoranca shpesh krijon m\u00eb shum\u00eb vet\u00ebbesim sesa njohuri”. Vet\u00ebbesimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tipar i madh; megjithat\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb fituar dhe jo n\u00ebse vjen nga nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb e shtremb\u00ebruar e ep\u00ebrsis\u00eb, di\u00e7ka q\u00eb u ndodh kryesisht egotist\u00ebve.<\/li>
Si\u00e7 u p\u00ebrmend m\u00eb lart, egotist\u00ebt nuk enjohin interesin e tyre (emocional) p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. N\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, ata nuk sinkronizojn\u00eb pik\u00ebpamjet dhe mendimet e tyre me njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb, dhe as nuk z\u00ebn\u00eb vendin e tjetrit. Nj\u00eb person egoist do t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb nj\u00eb munges\u00eb ndjeshm\u00ebrie n\u00eb diskutim; ai do t\u00eb ndaloj\u00eb nj\u00eb diskutim sa m\u00eb shpejt q\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb rezistenc\u00eb dhe mosmarr\u00ebveshje.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Ndjenja e ep\u00ebrsis\u00eb s\u00eb nj\u00eb egomaniaku ngjan me at\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb narcizisti. Narcizist\u00ebt egoist\u00eb gabimisht besojn\u00eb se nevojat dhe d\u00ebshirat e tyre k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb trajtim t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, nj\u00eb reagim tjet\u00ebr ose aspak reagim nga pala tjet\u00ebr me siguri do t\u00eb sjell\u00eb zem\u00ebrim dhe p\u00ebrbuzje.<\/li>
Sigmund Freud, si shumica e psikolog\u00ebve dhe psikiat\u00ebrve, besonin se njer\u00ebzit lindin n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje egoizmi. Nj\u00eb ekspert shprehet se “foshnjat fillimisht jan\u00eb t\u00eb preokupuara p\u00ebr plot\u00ebsimin e nevojave t\u00eb tyre dhe foshnjat shum\u00eb t\u00eb reja mund t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt (si n\u00eb tiparin e gjith\u00ebpushtetit); por f\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb rritur gradualisht zhvillojn\u00eb ndjeshm\u00ebri dhe interes p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt”. Njer\u00ebzit egoist\u00eb duket se nuk i kalojn\u00eb k\u00ebto faza t\u00eb zhvillimit psikologjik, i cili lidhet drejtp\u00ebrdrejt me m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb papjekur t\u00eb t\u00eb menduarit.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Shumica e egotist\u00ebve kan\u00eb karakteristika t\u00eb ngjashme me ato t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve me \u00e7rregullime narciziste. Por ka nj\u00eb gj\u00eb q\u00eb bie n\u00eb sy: manipulimi i q\u00ebllimsh\u00ebm dhe i llogaritur. Egotist\u00ebt q\u00eb i p\u00ebrshtaten k\u00ebtij p\u00ebrshkrimi i perceptojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt si mjete t\u00eb thjeshta p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur nj\u00eb q\u00ebllim. Ata do t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin dhe shfryt\u00ebzojn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb kan\u00eb n\u00eb dispozicion p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ata mendojn\u00eb se “meritojn\u00eb” dhe pastaj e refuzojn\u00eb at\u00eb person pa pendim.<\/li>
P\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs egoiste, t\u00eb papjekur t\u00eb t\u00eb menduarit, k\u00ebta individ\u00eb zakonisht kan\u00eb nj\u00eb inteligjenc\u00eb emocionale t\u00eb pazhvilluar. Impulsiviteti i tyre, i kombinuar me aft\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre t\u00eb kufizuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb menaxhuar ose p\u00ebrshtatur emocionet e tyre, shpesh shprehet p\u00ebrmes shp\u00ebrthimeve verbale dhe shp\u00ebrthimeve. Njer\u00ebzit egoist\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen shum\u00eb agresiv\u00eb, edhe fizikisht.<\/li>
Nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata q\u00eb i n\u00ebnshtrohen luksit jan\u00eb edhe egoist\u00eb, por \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga karakteristikat e tyre t\u00eb zakonshme. Gj\u00ebja e \u00e7uditshme n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ekzagjeruar \u00ebsht\u00eb se ata marrin m\u00eb shum\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi nga v\u00ebmendja q\u00eb arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb marrin sesa nga blerja dhe zot\u00ebrimi i secil\u00ebs send ose shum\u00eb para.<\/li><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"