Shumica prej nesh her\u00ebt a von\u00eb do t\u00eb duhet te sh\u00ebrojm\u00eb plag\u00ebn q\u00eb na l\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie pasi t\u00eb ket\u00eb mbaruar, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse fundi nuk ishte i dhunsh\u00ebm dhe i sh\u00ebmtuar. Me nj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, ne m\u00ebsojm\u00eb nga gabimet tona, gjejm\u00eb ngush\u00ebllim nga miqt\u00eb dhe m\u00eb n\u00eb fund fillojm\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb re. P\u00ebr fats t\u00eb keq, historia nganj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e ndryshme n\u00ebse nj\u00ebri associate i jep fund marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies kur tjetri \u00ebsht\u00eb i angazhuar dhe i angazhuar fort. Ankthi se ne jemi personi q\u00eb na refuzoi mund t\u00eb na mbingarkoj\u00eb. Disa njer\u00ebz p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb zi t\u00eb pafund, pesimiz\u00ebm t\u00eb paduruesh\u00ebm dhe nj\u00eb frik\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdueshme se nuk do t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb kurr\u00eb m\u00eb dashuri. Gjithashtu, n\u00ebse dikush p\u00ebrjeton braktisje vazhdimisht, pesimizmi dhe trauma e tij do t\u00eb intensifikohen n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohen. N\u00eb fakt, shumica e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb vuajn\u00eb nga zia e zgjatur zakonisht p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn q\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e tyre t\u00eb funksionojn\u00eb. Dhe kur ata mbeten p\u00ebrs\u00ebri vet\u00ebm, ata hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje trishtimi dhe konfuzioni, duke menduar se \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb keq me ta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cilat jan\u00eb arsyet prapa zis\u00eb s\u00eb zgjatur p\u00ebr p\u00ebrfundimin e nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pasiguria.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n lsht\u00eb e natyrshme q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb ndjehen t\u00eb pasigurt kur k\u00ebrc\u00ebnohen se do t\u00eb humbin dik\u00eb. N\u00ebse siguria e tyre shqet\u00ebsohet nga nj\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnim i paparashikuar, shumica prej nesh p\u00ebrdorin mekanizma mbrojt\u00ebs q\u00eb na ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcejm\u00eb ndjenjat e frik\u00ebs dhe trishtimit. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs ecim p\u00ebrpara. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb vuajn\u00eb nga nivele m\u00eb t\u00eb thella t\u00eb stresit. Ata ndihen duksh\u00ebm m\u00eb t\u00eb pafuqish\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebruar, sikur kurr\u00eb m\u00eb nuk mund t\u2019i besojn\u00eb dashuris\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pritjet e tep\u00ebrta.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse dikush ndjen \u00e7do her\u00eb q\u00eb ka gjetur “marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e p\u00ebrsosur”, por p\u00ebrfundimisht pala tjet\u00ebr e ndan at\u00eb, ai ndihet i d\u00ebshp\u00ebruar. K\u00ebta njer\u00ebz zakonisht jan\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrrimtar\u00eb dhe k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb. Sapo t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb nj\u00eb individual t\u00eb till\u00eb (n\u00eb syt\u00eb e tyre), ata i vendosin t\u00eb gjitha shpresat dhe pritjet tek ai. Dhe ndarja sjell zhg\u00ebnjim t\u00eb pafund.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Trauma e braktisjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n F\u00ebmij\u00ebt pothuajse gjithmon\u00eb humbin n\u00eb sfer\u00ebn e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tyre. P\u00ebrvojat e hershme strukturojn\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si funksionojn\u00eb dhe formohen marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e m\u00ebvonshme. Kur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb braktiset, ka t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb t\u00eb formoj\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb pasigurt me jet\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb m\u00ebvonshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Frika nga vetmia.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse dikush ka frik\u00eb vazhdimisht se nuk do t\u00eb gjej\u00eb kurr\u00eb dashuri, ai shpesh do t\u00eb toleroj\u00eb neglizhenc\u00ebn, abuzimin ose sjelljen abuzive vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebndruar n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie. N\u00ebse partneri i tij vazhdon t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihet n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie kaq t\u00eb pabarabart\u00eb, dy gj\u00ebra mund t\u00eb ndodhin: partneri tjet\u00ebr do t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb ndihet fajtor ose t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb k\u00ebrkon diku tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr nj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Frik\u00eb nga d\u00ebshtimi.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb kan\u00eb fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr fjal\u00eb t\u00eb frik\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar fjal\u00ebn “d\u00ebshtim”. Dhe sigurisht e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve. K\u00ebshtu q\u00eb n\u00ebse dikush i divorcon, ata e marrin aq personalisht sa e ndiejn\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshtimi m\u00eb tragjik i jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ata e kan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebvizin dhe t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb t\u00eb lidhur pothuajse obsesivisht me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e vjet\u00ebr, por kryesisht me vet\u00eb ndarjen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Randi Gunther, Ph.D<\/em><\/strong> Psikolog klinike<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Shumica prej nesh her\u00ebt a von\u00eb do t\u00eb duhet te sh\u00ebrojm\u00eb plag\u00ebn q\u00eb na l\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie pasi t\u00eb ket\u00eb mbaruar, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse fundi nuk ishte i dhunsh\u00ebm dhe i sh\u00ebmtuar. Me nj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, ne m\u00ebsojm\u00eb nga gabimet tona, gjejm\u00eb ngush\u00ebllim nga miqt\u00eb dhe m\u00eb n\u00eb fund fillojm\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb re. P\u00ebr […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3852,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3851","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji"},"yoast_head":"\n