Nj\u00eb partner q\u00eb mendon negativisht, nj\u00eb mik manipulues, nj\u00eb koleg i pacip\u00eb dhe toksik, i cili b\u00ebn gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019ju \u200b\u200bzvog\u00ebluar n\u00eb \u00e7do mund\u00ebsi. Te ju q\u00eb i kaloni t\u00eb gjitha sa m\u00eb sip\u00ebr, i pranoni pasivisht dhe shpresoni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dit\u00eb pozitive. Ju kurr\u00eb nuk do ta ofroni at\u00eb p\u00ebr ju.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u00eb refuzosh t\u00eb pranosh disa \u201cgabime\u201d n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, qoft\u00eb nga frika, qoft\u00eb nga zakoni, nuk t\u00eb ndihmon. Dhe kryesisht nuk ju ndihmon. Duke shpresuar p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lumturi, nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb nga qielli me lutjet e mesnat\u00ebs p\u00ebr ta shoq\u00ebruar at\u00eb. K\u00ebto gj\u00ebra shkojn\u00eb ndryshe. Dhe t\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, ato jan\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar. Hap pas hapi, hap pas hapi, frym\u00eb pas fryme. Me d\u00ebshir\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kur p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsia juaj kryesore jan\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, partneri juaj, e dashura juaj, n\u00ebna juaj, kolegu juaj, at\u00ebher\u00eb mos prisni q\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb e mbushur me lumturi t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbehet p\u00ebr m\u00ebngjes. Ju nuk e d\u00ebshironi at\u00eb. Ju nuk e tregoni at\u00eb. Ju nuk e ndjeni at\u00eb. Nuk t\u00eb shqet\u00ebson sinqerisht kjo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ju jeni i interesuar t\u00eb mbani nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie indiferente q\u00eb ju hedh dhe n\u00eb koh\u00eb bie, por ju e d\u00ebshironi at\u00eb, ju intereson t\u00eb mbani t\u00eb dashur\u00ebn, sepse\u2026 ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shoqe, ju intereson n\u00ebna sepse ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb dhe nuk doni ta m\u00ebrzitni at\u00eb, ju intereson kolegu ju doni q\u00eb imazhi juaj profesional t\u00eb jet\u00eb “i plot\u00eb” dhe “i q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm” dhe t\u00eb pranoni at\u00eb q\u00eb pranoni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un\u00eb do t’ju tregoj n\u00eb vijim.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr e t\u00ebr\u00eb dhe e q\u00ebndrueshme dhe nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr viktim\u00eb. Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr “Un\u00eb dua ta shoh n\u00ebn\u00ebn time t\u00eb lumtur” dhe nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr “Un\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebj gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos m\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyer”. Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr “Un\u00eb dua t\u00eb jem mir\u00eb me partnerin tim” dhe nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr “Un\u00eb pranoj gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ai t\u00eb jet\u00eb mir\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb edhe un\u00eb” dhe nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, dhe nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr “Un\u00eb b\u00ebhem nj\u00eb mij\u00eb cop\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar vet\u00eb \u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsia juaj jan\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, kushdo tjet\u00ebr dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia juaj me ta, at\u00ebher\u00eb mendoni se \u00e7far\u00eb po b\u00ebn: ju e humbni veten tuaj. Ju shkoni me uj\u00ebrat e tyre, lexoni kodet e tyre t\u00eb komunikimit dhe “p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies tuaj” i miratoni ata, ju humbni identitetin tuaj, ju humbni qenien tuaj t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, nevojat tuaja, d\u00ebshirat tuaja dhe pastaj ju jeni t\u00eb humbur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Cili \u00ebsht\u00eb kuptimi i gjith\u00eb k\u00ebsaj? Kush \u00ebsht\u00eb i\/e mir\u00eb n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit? Kush e ka mbajtur q\u00ebndrimin m\u00eb negativ n\u00eb histori? Kujdes! Negativ nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm ai q\u00eb adopton nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim “t\u00eb mjeruesh\u00ebm” ndaj jet\u00ebs, ose b\u00ebn mendime t\u00eb zeza dhe e shpreh at\u00eb. Negativ \u00ebsht\u00eb toksiciteti, var\u00ebsia, pasiviteti n\u00eb trajtim. Ju e dini p\u00ebrgjigjen?!.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kur flas p\u00ebr pozitivitetin dhe \u201cjet\u00ebn pozitive\u201d, flas p\u00ebr lumturin\u00eb. P\u00ebr nj\u00eb lumturi t\u00eb plot\u00eb dhe absolute, i\/e qeshur, i\/e thell\u00eb. Personalisht, e di q\u00eb e meritoni. Un\u00eb e meritoj at\u00eb dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb . Por deri n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb mase i kemi syt\u00eb me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb tek ajo Lumturia e lakmuar e Zonj\u00ebs\/ Zoterise, kur vazhdimisht jemi t\u00eb mbushur me negativitet vullnetarisht, duke mbledhur shuplaka t\u00eb cilat ne po aq vullnetare i pranojm\u00eb, duke g\u00eblltitur emocione nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt?<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u00ebrgjigja \u00ebsht\u00eb brenda nesh dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e dim\u00eb at\u00eb. Kur fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb seriozisht z\u00ebrin ton\u00eb, f\u00ebmija brenda nesh, nevojat tona, d\u00ebshirat, trupi, intuita, kur fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb ndiejm\u00eb \u00ebndrrat tona, kur pranojm\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebnat e realitetit ton\u00eb ashtu si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb, ne i p\u00ebrqafojm\u00eb ato dhe shkojm\u00eb p\u00ebrpara “Hedhjeve” te njer\u00ebzve, situatave dhe kushteve q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme p\u00ebr ne, at\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u00eb mbyllim nj\u00eb sy vetem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At\u00ebher\u00eb, ne do t\u00eb ndiejm\u00eb nj\u00eb Drit\u00eb brenda nesh. At\u00ebher\u00eb, kjo Drit\u00eb do t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtjell\u00eb zemr\u00ebn ton\u00eb dhe mendja jon\u00eb do t\u00eb shk\u00eblqej\u00eb. At\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb lumtur. Kund\u00ebr parashikimeve ogurzez\u00eb p\u00ebr ecurin\u00eb ton\u00eb t\u00eb deritanishme, kund\u00ebr frik\u00ebs dhe kafazeve. Zonja do t\u00eb na buz\u00ebqesh\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr sa koh\u00eb q\u00eb ne e mb\u00ebshtesim at\u00eb ajo do t\u00eb na mb\u00ebshtes\u00eb. E natyrshme, e bukur dhe pa mundim. Si\u00e7 duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb Lumturia p\u00ebr secilin prej nesh. Nd\u00ebrsa e meritojm\u00eb….<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Nj\u00eb partner q\u00eb mendon negativisht, nj\u00eb mik manipulues, nj\u00eb koleg i pacip\u00eb dhe toksik, i cili b\u00ebn gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019ju \u200b\u200bzvog\u00ebluar n\u00eb \u00e7do mund\u00ebsi. Te ju q\u00eb i kaloni t\u00eb gjitha sa m\u00eb sip\u00ebr, i pranoni pasivisht dhe shpresoni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dit\u00eb pozitive. Ju kurr\u00eb nuk do ta ofroni at\u00eb p\u00ebr ju. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3744,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[521],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3743","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-psikologji"},"yoast_head":"\n